OK to make a long story short. I have 2 half sisters that are 10 years and 15 years older than I. We lost our father in 2000. They stopped talking to me. They never returned my phone calls. I always kept trying. One day we all got together they started inviting me to their kids B-day parties. then when my sons came up they never showed. i had a baby shower no call no show same with the baptisim. I saw my sister at a store and she told me she was moving away! Out of state! If i never would have seen her she would never of told me. Now I get a going away party invite. I keep getting hurt by them. When I go they ignore me. What should I do. Go or not. Since they never really make an effort for me. my daughter is 6 months and they have never seen her or even called??? What should I do.
2007-03-21 07:50:18 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
b mature and go to the party, dnt b a follower a leader, jus b/c they didnt come to urz doesnt mean u should set a bad example for ur kids
2007-03-21 08:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sometimes family can be like that. Do they mean to be? Who can say. Have you told them how you feel? Do you want to? Sometimes it is necessary to remove ourselves from toxic situations. It doesn't sound like you have ever been really close. If this is just since your father passed, (my condolences) then maybe it is just how they are handling their grief. It could be that they felt a little slighted when their father started a new family. The thing is, you will never know unless you ask, but be prepared for an answer you may not like. It could mend broken fences or blow the gate wide open to even bigger hurts. What are you prepared for, and what do you want to happen?
2007-03-21 15:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Penny K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know how you feel. Face to face, by phone, letter or whatever else it may take to get your point across. There is a reason why they don't show up at your functions and you feel compelled to show up to theirs. You are a good person. Don't let unpleasant people hinder you from continuing to be one, just be a wiser one. Unfortunately we don't pick our families, we pick our friends. As much as we would like to make that special bond with our family, in reality, some of them are donkeyholes. Keep the faith. Try talking to them before you go, but it is obvious that they are not as concerned as you are for whatever reason. If they can't give you a valid reason for their behavior, I would wish them well and let them know that you won't be able to make it . I don't feel that you would enjoy yourself being around people that do not pay attention to you. Stay strong.
2007-03-21 15:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you're very tolerant and it sounds like you understand that family is worth it to keep trying, even if you don't get a response back. Go the the going-away party and take your sisters aside. Do whatever you have to do to get them alone even if it means physically making them. Tell them that your relationship with them is a link to your father and that since his passing, you have realized the importance of a family bond. TELL THEM that their actions are hurting you. Don't get angry, be calm and reasonable but let them know how it makes you feel to be pushed aside, and most importantly, tell them that you don't think of them as half sisters, you think of them as sisters and they are important in your life.
2007-03-21 15:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by msannawilson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would go to the going away party.
If possible I would take them aside and let them know you value their friendship and that you would very much like to keep in touch with them.That's about all you can do.You can't force yourself or your children on them.
Maybe this is the way they are with everyone so don't let them hurt you.
Stand tall and hope for the best.If not,concentrate on your own family and enjoy life.You have a lot to be thankful for in your children.God Bless.
2007-03-21 15:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it bother you.. yes it hurts when family turns their backs on you like that.. but if it would make you feel better then you should try to talk to them and ask what the problem is.. maybe you did something to them that you are not aware of.. or maybe they are just b*tches.... either way you need to make your self feel at ease.. and dont stress over things like this as much... they will get theirs one day.. so until then live your life with your little baby and dont let them get you down.
2007-03-21 15:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO!!!
They're obviously not making any effort to be part of your family. It's give and take with ANY relationship not just give or take!
You might wanna try talking to them to. Maybe they're not doing it on purpose. Definitely tell them how you feel.
2007-03-21 14:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by batchick5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋