He is troubled and he needs someone to talk too. i try but he is always hiding something from me. i really like him and i want to help him.
Help me....what should i do?
2007-03-21 07:42:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i think that you shouldnt say whats wrong or let me help you just take it slow and ask him how he's been has he gotten anything new and stuff like that liven him up if he seems truobled cheer him up be a good friend to him and he will open up and when he does just listen to him and let him know that you are listening to everyword that he says and when the time is right then talk but dont make it about yourself make it strictly just about him and he should lighten up but if not just give him time.
2007-03-21 07:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OPEN HIM UP
But ur now thinkin yh ino that but how...talking aint always the best thing u mite no that 80% of communication isnt talking. Body language is so important.. if you care for him uve not got a problem jus hugging him every so often just asking if hes ok gain his full trust and then once you've got it then ask him what you really want to find out
Dont come on to strong theres a fine line between Caring and Annoyingness.... no way do you want to scare him off. If your really concerned and nothing on here helps talk to someone i guess ur in skool so ask a teacher or a cousiler?
Good luck sure fings will b fine
2007-03-21 14:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like as in best friend like or boyfriend like???
If you're happy just to be best friends (no romantic interest)with this guy, then it's ok to offer your shoulders for him to cry on. I doubt if he would really open up tho. Teenage boys are not good at verbalizing their problems. Just the same, make him know that you are there for him and that he can trust you with anything. Show him you really care (as a friend) by being upbeat and cheerful around him. Hopefully, by just having you around is enough for him to forget his troubles --- you are the bright light in his dark nights.
Now if you want this guy to be your bf ultimately, I strongly suggest you limit your offer of support to just positive posturing - just smile and be nice to him all the time, be your natural sweet self around him BUT don't pry anymore into his personal troubles. You may show interest in him but not on his troubles (big difference, girl!). If you keep on trying to get him to talk to you and he does (about his deepest darkest troubles), the chance of having him for a bf goes out the
window. By telling you everything, he has admitted his vulnerability and he might be reluctant afterwards to regard you as anything more than a confidante.
I've laid some possibilities for you --- the choice is all yours on what to do.
Stay cool, young lady...and SMILE!
2007-03-21 15:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Inday 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to hide something,just let him.Dont bother too much about that.All what you can do is care for him the way you do.Your tremendous love and care will make him feel comfortable around you.And then,he may probably open up and share any thoughts or feelings he is hiding.
All what matters is your whole hearted support.Assure him that you will stand by him always.
2007-03-21 15:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋