I have been with my boyfriend for 9mths. About 3 weeks ago he started to act very weird so i asked him if he need a break. (Oh yeah and I brought up the marriage word) He said that yes he wants to take a break. So naturally I was devistated. I assumed that we would't talk again but he still calls me every other day and still wants to see me, kiss me, hug me. But when I ask him if we were back together he says he's not sure and still needs time/space. So I asked him to stop calling me so I could move on but he still calls and says he misses me. I even asked him if he wants to see other people and he said NO. And to top it off he went to Florida (single) this week for a Boys trip (But he said he would call me while he was there). I feel like maybe I'm pressuring him and he just needs space to figure things out. Is he possibly leading me on? I don't want to give up on him cause I love him but I don't want to hold on if he really doesn't care. Is it poss that he will want me back?
2007-03-21 07:39:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds like I want to f..k other girls but don't want you to know about it and don't want you to go with other guys... It is possible he might come back to you but I don't think its worth waiting for him... He is insecure and last think a girl needs is an insecure man... I am a guy my self and that is what I think about this... Good luck
2007-03-29 05:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by ermal_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first up the M word, nine months? Too early!
Secondly I know exactly what that's like.. There's three possibilities..
1. He knows you are really into him so he's taking advantage of you by having a pretty much no strings attached relationship with you.
2. Maybe he really needs time and he still likes you and will come around out sometime soon!
3. He doesn't know what "break" means!
You should talk to him again and ask him what is going on! If he tells you he's not sure then tell him to keep his hands off you until he is, that way you'll really know if he likes you!
2007-03-21 14:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Freakazoid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he got spooked by the "m" word. Give him some time to think about things. If you trust him and he says he doesn't want to see other people, then you're kinda still together, even if it makes him nervous to say so. Keep treating him the way you always do and re-evaluate after awhile. Then just ask him whether he got spooked by your talk of a more serious commitment. Let him know that you care about him and that you don't want to rush him, but that you want to know if he doesn't see this relationship headed in that direction. If he loves you, he'll be honest with you.
2007-03-21 14:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by ay ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it it's only nine months ur relationship ang he is acting as if u have to be very patient and wait till he feel better. Don't waist your time and never think it's your fault because he is acting like that 2 u. then anytime he can kiss and hug u and say he miss u "if he want only " what is that ?
Hey girl ,i don't know but think of it , alright ... he is not the last person to be in love with .. show him that is ok don't be sad and get affected see what happen next. let him realize that u r not a swicth that when he to turn it on and off . u decide.
2007-03-29 04:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by amwid-u:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in so much of a rush to be tied down at such a wonderful time in your life. Slow things down a bit. You're young, enjoy it while you still can. He sounds way to young (especially to be considering marriage) if he needs to go away with the boys for a weekend trip. Now, just what do you think he's doing on this get away trip? I can tell you, he's not sitting at home thinking about you. He's out messing in the field with all the honies he can find. The grass Is Greener when you're out of Town by yourself. Sounds to me like you're his back up girl when no one's around. Good luck.
2007-03-21 14:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by riverrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares about you but probably has fears about marriage, since you brought it up. Even though you love him and probably love you, do give him time to think about it. If you want a happy married life, then I would hold on for a while and if you find marriage is not in his plans, then move on. I made a decision to break up because my bf said he would never marry again. He very shortly changed his mind as he did care about me and we married. This is one of the worst mistakes of my life. Run, don't walk if you want to marry but the guy doesn't. Good luck.
2007-03-29 14:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, i think you really freaked him out with the marriage talk. 9 months is way too soon to be talking about getting married. it makes a guy think you are obsessing, and then they run because they can't handle it because men are emotionally retarded. lay off the M word and it sounds like he'll come back if you give him a lil space and don't freak him out anymore with commitment stuff. good luck!
2007-03-21 14:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by slustephi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's afaid of commitment. When you brought up the marriage thing after nine months, that probably scared the crap out of him. He probably loves you but he is afraid that you are too attached to him. If he really loved you should wait for him but don't let him be a player.
2007-03-29 14:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sit there lonely and depressed or anything but give him his time and space. dont jump right out there and find someone new, because this sounds like it was a pretty intense relationship and to just go out and do that would be wrong. give him his time but dont sit there and hold on to him forever. dont ignore him necessairily or anything be his friend and support him but if he needs time and space give it to him. ask him if calling you all the time and saying all that stuff is really helping him figure things out. try to talk to him about it. but yea thats all i got.
good luck!
2007-03-29 14:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need space for yourself too, you need to let him be by himself nor his friends. he just wanna be free an be able to feel single all over again. let him have fun with whoever he want to be with. If he does loves you , he will always come back to you. don't pressuring him about marriage anymore that is an turned of for any men. you need to free your mind and spend time with yourself. If his not the one, you will find someone who's the one for you.
2007-03-29 02:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by lizrobledo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋