i'm willing to bet that it's more than a joint here and there.i know i have to "be the parent" so does anyone have any advice as to how to go about broaching the subject of drug testing? he's 18,legal age, but still lives in my house. my house,my rules.i know he'll flip out no matter what i say so any good advice will be appreciated. anyone been here before? thanks in advance.
2007-03-21 07:37:28 · 5 answers · asked by racer 51 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have not been there but my parents have. My older sister who is now 33 is a recovering adict and acholic. She lived with us for a while.. Even after she was 18. What my parents did was real tough on them but it did help her. They sat her down one night and said they had reason to believe that she was on drugs and that she needed to be honest and get a drug test. She refused. They then went to tell her that if she continued to live here that she would have too. She did and she failed. They convienced her to go to drug rehab or leave. She chose rehab but continued to sneak after she got out of rehab. There is no easy way to do this. Either way he is not going to like it. The trick is you have to be firm and expect a battle. If he has friends or family that think he is on drugs too try and get them involed and do something like an intervention. You need people to stand behind you and support you on this. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything turns out ok for ya.. Hope I could be of some help
2007-03-21 07:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can do what he wants but if you bring that stuff in my house or don't get your stuff straight your out. There comes a time when you gotta be brutally honest and he will be angry with you for a couple months but he will come crawling back because he loves you every son loves there mom. You let him have to much power, its your house your the boss. GET PIST AND DO IT NOW, GET PUMPED.
2007-03-21 14:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents face the same problem, sent him away, sent him back, moved him in and outof houses, now he lives home but has had the same drug problem for 8 years. Honestly, you just have to be patient. tell him that you knwo what he's doing and if you need help quitting or support, you'll always be there, but NO GUILT, it's going to be awkward but i think it's necessary
2007-03-21 14:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if u know that he is doing drugs it doesn't really matter because he is in legal age!!!! BUT if a cop catches him he CAN go to jail!!!!! Just try to be sencire and tell him how you feel and tell him that it's wrong or he SHOULD MOVE OUT!!!!
2007-03-21 14:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Alina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i have tried weed b4 and if my mom knew that she would have me dead by now.. but if he is doing drugs and still living in your house you have every right..
2007-03-21 14:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by lesley m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋