2007-03-21 07:34:18 · 24 answers · asked by Voight-Kampff 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have to say that your timing is perfect. I posted a question earlier, not asking exactly the same question but wanting to....I was kind of afraid to word it this way. So thank you because I am eating up the responses/feedback! I do sometimes I feel I have lost my identity. I don't necessarily "regret" having a child or miss my "pre-baby" life. However I have always, always been a fiercely independent person...confident and on my own. So the adjustment at times has been very difficult. But that comes and goes. Nothing has shaken my confidence more and yet given me such a deep, powerful feeling of joy. It's most definitely rocked me, to the core.
One minute I can be ready to literally pull my hair out from sheer exhaustion and convinced I am going insane....totally insane!...to laughing and kissing and squeezing my girl because I am so overwhelmed with love for her. All she has to do is smile at me. True definition of CRAZY love.
2007-03-21 08:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I have never have regrets about having my daughter she is my life my husband and I love being parents. I do however think what was I thinking when I wanted to have kids when she does things like write on the wall with a marker or flush the entire bottle of new shampoo down the toilet or feed the dog chocolate but I would not change being a mom for the world I love it and that is why I stay at home with her I dont want to miss a sec. of her life. Hope you dont have to many regrets about your kids they are allways a gift and a joy to have ( even when they dont mind) Good luck
2007-03-21 08:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by mommieof1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course sometimes i do. I had my first son when i was 16 and my second son at 18, married at 21 became the step mom of 2 boys, while raising my own, and im now 27 weeks pregnant, Not to mention i am also a stay at home mom. YUP i missed out on alot of things, i do regret it at times, no not really regret it because i love all of my children, i more feel so bad that i missed so much. Sometimes i wonder what it would have been like to meet a man, fall in love, get married and have HIS children. But i will never know what that is like. I entered this with an already made family you know what i mean? My life at 23 is being a stay at home mom of 4 boys, ages 8,6,6,4, being pregnant (most of my life). Married already (which i enjoy, i love my hubby) and being a personal slave to everyone but myself. But i do love it and wouldnt want it any other way. Unless you catch me on a rough day LOL
2007-03-21 07:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel horrible about this but I sometimes think I regret having my second one. After my second one was born my first one was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and sometimes that is overwhelming. The shots and the keeping track of his blood sugar, basically keeping him alive. And sometimes I am overwhelmed with splitting my time, feeling like I am giving one more attention than the other. But I truly love him and could not imagine life without him. He is smart and amazing and one of the best little boys a mom could have. I think it is only natural to think about things like that. But it doesn't make a person a bad parent just to think it. But for christ's sake, don't tell the kids you regret having them. It is tough enough growing up without thinking about the fact your parents regret having you.
2007-03-21 08:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive never regretted having my kids. There have been times when I thought my hubby and me were going insane especially during the(how can I put it) ' difficult' teenage years but now my baby is 22 and I am also a grandmother life's sweet (most of the time)
2007-03-21 08:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by taffia's other half 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever regret having kids, but I do often think about what I would be doing right now if I didn't have any...
2007-03-21 07:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when my kids were younger and I wasn't getting any sleep because at least one of them was up every night, and I had no money and times were hard, I used to look at my childless friends and think, "that looks good".
But now I'm older and a grandmother. And I've found that my kids are really interested in me and how I am doing. They want to take care of me. Yippee! I made the right decisions!
If you want to be happy in your fifties and beyond, have 4 kids, that's my advice.
2007-03-21 07:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From time to time, in the heat of the Terrible Twos or the Monstrous Mid-Teens; I have thought to myself;
"there are absolutely no positive aspects to having kids"
And meant it. Temporarily.
I love them madly, all harum- scarum, insane, totally different five of them; they have brought me untold joy and the deepest of hurts; but I do not regret it. And if I had to do it all again; yes, sir, I would.
2007-03-21 07:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i love my child wih all my heart she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I believe if a person regrets having their kids they dont need any!
2007-03-21 07:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey man don't spend your life regreting your decisions. Life is all about decisions even if you feel you made wrong ones. Everybody makes mistakes.
Those kids are gifts and more precious than any material possession. The things which can't be touched are of more value than those that can be, namely love. The greatest love come from the Son of God - Jesus. He loves you and is waiting for you to come to Him. You won't find fullfillment anywhere else.
2007-03-21 07:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by victory 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋