I suffer from Anxiety and depression. I have been seeing a therapist and just got a script for some medication. My gf does not want me on medication. She says why don't you just snap out of it, why do you have to take medication, just get over it. I love her and she loves me but I can't seem to make her understand what I am going through not matter how many times I explain what is going through my head. How can I make her understand?
Thank for your answers!!
2007-03-21 07:31:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She doesn't want you on medication because she's worried. The medications you will be taking are not something to joke about (as you understand yourself), they have side-effects and you might get "addicted" (they will make you feel calmer, and might make you think that *all* stress isn't normal).
My husband was on medication for anxiety for some time. I was against it at first, but we sat down and he explained clearly to me why he thought he needed them. He told me that he wants to be in a healthy relationship, and not to have to tug me into his depression time after time. After this talk I agreed to his medication. Yes, he's gained weight and became a lot less energetic and outgoing than before. People don't like their loved ones to go through such changes, but now he's taking only half of one pill per day and he's more or less back to his normal state minus the anxiety / depression.
So I would recommend that you have the same long talk with your girlfriend. Explain to her as best as you can how you feel most of the time, and tell her that you want to cure yourself because you love her. If she loves you back she will understand. Why don't you both also research these medications online? Or you can also offer her to go with you to the therapist to ask some questions about how these pills work, about the side effects and etc.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 07:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Yeva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you and I don't know how to make your girlfriend understand. It's such a shame that she isn't more understanding. This has got to be adding to your problems. I think you should try meds and see if they help. Sometimes they do. If your clinically depressed not doing anything is not good so take the meds and I wish you could find a loving, caring and understanding girlfriend, either that or find a way to give her the anxiety and depression , I'll bet that would make her alittle more understanding.
2007-03-21 07:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social anxiety can cause these feelings, which can also lead to severe depression,
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/ds...
if not you could be suffering from Generalized Anxiety
Disorder..http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/general_anx...
There is hope; I've been there, and still am there, it is a long, hard struggle. I recommend
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cognitive_b... worked best for me, with mild anti-anxiety meds. I suffered from social anxiety for over 15 years. I've tried individual therapy, and group therapy and studied psychology for 10 years, as a profession, but also with the hope to cure myself.
Depending on your comfort level, you could go to a psychologist that practices CBT and specializes in anxiety disorders, seek a group therapy, or create one. Usually those that do attend the group therapy are a bit more high functioning because as you know, it can be difficult to speak in a group.
Another idea is to see if there are any local research studies being conducted that you could participate in.
The program that finally worked the best for me is this one: http://www.socialanxiety.us/findinghelp.... and I was lucky enough to have a structured behavioral group to go along with it. Sometimes the people that actually attend this program come back home and form groups.
I recommend a mild anti-anxiety med in addition to CBT therapy.
Any questions, let me know ... I can't tell you how much this has improved my life!
2007-03-21 17:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by Advice Please 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make her understand. Try as you might, it just won't work. If she loves you and truly cares for you, then she would understand that you are having a serious problem that you need medication for. A doctor would not give you meds if he didn't think you needed them. Explain to her how you are feeling, and that you need help to feel better. If she cares, she should understand that you can't just snap out of it, or get over it. Doctor's offices often have print outs for concerned loved ones who deal with a family members depression. See if you can find some of those. They help explain to her what you are feeling, and that you can't just "snap out of it". Good Luck.
2007-03-25 07:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have her talk to your therapist, you can give her literature on clinical depression, you can also lead a horse to water......the point being that you can do all that, but if she chooses to deny that depression is a legitimate diagnosis, and wants to keep telling you to just snap out of it, then I'd bet she won't change. Some people are incapable of putting themselves in someone elses shoes, they are incapable of empathy or understanding. If she is one such, you would do well to find another. She will only add to your problems with depression.
2007-03-21 07:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to understand depression unless you go through it. People just assume you can "snap out of it". Why not suggest that your girlfriend go to the therapist with you she can get more information about depression and how you are feeling. If she's not willing to go with you to better understand what you're going through, I think you should seriously re-consider your relationship. Couple need to be able to rely on each other and draw strength from each other.
2007-03-21 07:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mental illness, treatment for depression, and I have lost friends because I'm open about it. It hurt sometimes, but I got over it. I don't need close-minded people for my friends when there are so many open-minded people around. Try to get well, and maybe your girl friend will learn to accept it or maybe she won't--don't base your wellness on her opinion; that's no way to have a healthy relationship. If she really cares about you, she will make an effort to understand.
2007-03-21 07:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was put on paxil not long ago, my husband flipped out, but i explained to him, that it has nothing to do with him or what is going on with my life, it is unbalanced chemicals, you cant just snap out of it. sometimes it takes meds to balance those chemicals. at least for now, after a while, your body may adjust itself and you may be able to go off of them. but for now you need them. your gf probably thinks its something she is doing or not doing to make you depressed, once she sees that it is something you have no control over, she may be more understanding.
2007-03-21 07:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by christy_clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard for people to understand these issues when they don't experience them for themselves. I would ask her to go with you to talk to your doctor. Ask her if she would be willing to become more educated on the subject and ask her if she would be willing to be more understanding and patient with you. Good luck to you.
2007-03-21 07:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by thejenns22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say I'm sorry about you having surgery that's all
2016-03-17 00:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋