my girlfriend is leaving for her gap year this summer for 9 months atleast, whereas I am already at uni, first year.
we've only been together for 2 months, but by the time she leaves for travelling we would have been together for quite a few months.
she says she does not want to break up, but Im not sure what to do.
Do you think it's possible to keep a relationship going without seeing each other for that long....
what should I do?
2007-03-21 07:21:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think if you really like this girl, you should do whatever it takes to keep her. I say.... give long-distance a shot!! What do you have to lose? It's better than looking back regretting it and wondering, "What if....?"
And if someone else comes along, then someone else comes along. Just wasn't meant to be.
But I really think you should atleast try.
Don't give up so easily...
2007-03-21 07:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be difficult but not impossible.
The hardest things will be trusting each other, keeping regular contact and for you realising that she will be changing. Travelling makes people grow up very quickly and she will mention people you've never met and places you've never seen. If you can keep being happy for her and maintain a supportive friendship whilst getting on with your own life then you migh just get through.
I wouldn't worry about it just yet, a lot can happen between now and August - like you say you've only been together 2 months. If you are still together when she goes then make sure you have some private time together before she goes. Give her a big bunch of airmail envelopes and a lovely picture of the two of you together and send her off with a big smile and a tear or two. Then go out with your mates, get drunk, feel a bit sorry for yourself and then get on with the next 9 months of your life!
2007-03-21 14:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are never easy but if you really like this girl then i'd say give it a go. Just because you cant see each other doesn't mean you'll have to break up. You can talk over the phone, and meet up on weekends. It can work if you really want it. You just gotta work at it. Good luck xxx
2007-03-21 14:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always go to the basics, my friend!. remember the things which made you to be a friend and lover of her. if these basics are of firm nature, then certainly you will be able to keep the relationship going without seeing each other for quite a long time. but on the other hand if the friendship is born out of "fancy" then it will soon wither away. be in touch with her-over phone, chatting and lettewriting( if your hand-writing is good!). have patience and faith in each other. the time swifts very quickly and soon both of you will be with each other to see the happiness of the life. good luck!
2007-03-21 14:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by me, the curious! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you have only been seeing her 2 months, would it not be better to finish now instead of heartbreak later on? It may be difficult but your a guy, shes a girl. You wont see her for at least 9 months, can you stay faithful? Can she? Think about it hun, its up to you. xxx
2007-03-21 14:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by creamball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with her for now, and see what happens, if your relationship evolves, you can discuss the problem when she leaves, and see if a long distance relationship is working out for you. if you don't feel so close to her, than you should discuss this with her. most importantly be very honest with her, don't say things you don't mean.
2007-03-21 15:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with her but if it gets difficult let her down gently and NOT in a text or phone call if it was meant to be love will keep you together
2007-03-21 14:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by rb_chick101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your relationship....if you are both dedicated to one another it should work out ok....mind you two months is not long enough to discover whether you are suited...I would try and just see how things go
2007-03-21 14:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can give it a try but u know dat distance careates room for stuf to come in so i really can't say but i know it is not immposible
2007-03-21 14:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in a relationship,belive me i haven't seem my girl for 3 months now.i trust her.even in her dreams me or she will give up.trust if can?
2007-03-22 04:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋