ive been dating my b/f for almost 3 years, and when we were togther for about 3 months a rumor went around that he made out with this very nasty girl. i aksed her about it and she said they didnt. well then next day he told me she made a move and he pushed her away and i belived him...two years later we broke up becuase i caught him kissing another girl...then all of a sudden the nasty girl comes out and tells me they made out.when she said they didnt...ok well now my and the boy are trying to work things out and i cant stop thinking about that rumor. he made out with this girl so what makes me think he didnt with the nasty chick, well i asked him to 3 way and confront her and i wanted to here what she said to him, but he flipped and wouldnt and freaked out on me and hung up. that makes me more suspicous. so who do i belive? should i just let it go since it was over 2 years ago? i love him and want things to work, but if this is the second time he kissed someone theres going to be a3rd
2007-03-21 07:16:50 · 15 answers · asked by Lovley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who do i belive, a girl ive never been close to...or the man ive loved for 3 years but hurt me...
2007-03-21 07:18:13 · update #1
See its your decision we can't tell what decision you should take. But i will guide you but answer these questions to yourself.
1. Who was there for the past 2-3 years in you life in your best and worst moments. Him / Her?
2. Who was there to cheer up when you were down or to celebrate with you when you were up for the last 2 -3 years. Him / Her?
3. Who shared his life his secrets his everything with you. Him / her?
4. Who boosted your confidence?
5. Who trusted you more than anybody?
Well if the answers are him then why are you believing somebody else.
You love life should be between you and him not include a third person. To err is human but forgive is human. Women is the symbol of forgiveness.
Now even if he was snogging on some other girl. He did a mistake. When we can love ourselves even after many mistakes we do why can't we do the same with others. Forgive him for his mistake. A nose chopped off in anger will not grow back after you cool down.
Remember this a confused mind can be easily manipulated. Don't let others words' manipulate you. Take a sound decision but don't ever regret for it.
2007-03-21 07:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bacti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. It happened ages ago, when you guys were just starting to date. He didn't know back then that he would be with you for three years.
Worry more about the girl he made out with when you guys had been together for two years. By that time, he should have known you were in a long term relationship and he still cheated on you. You should be telling him if he cheats again, he's out the door.
2007-03-21 07:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe the man. He has no conscience. He is willing to cheat on you to the extent that you will tolerate and he is willing to lie about it so he doesn't lose you. The only working it out that is possible is for you to fully accept a cheating man in your life or for you to tell him to get lost so you can find a man who chooses to be faithful to you. The fact that he won't confront the nasty girl with you means that he doesn't want to be exposed for the liar that he is. I am quite sure there are others that he has kissed that you don't even know about. He has no intention on being faithful to you. Understand this and accept him or move on.
2007-03-21 07:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that he did. What happened in the past happened. Forgive him and tell him that you value him more than a two bit fling, and tell him that if it happens again, then you're out; being as though he doesn't value being committed. If you are young, then real true love for you will be much more than what you are experiencing with this situation here. You have a lot of stepping stones to encounter on the path of love.
2007-03-21 07:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I dont realize if this may aid however, oftentimes men have a tendency to love extra then one woman, Maybe he likes her extra then he likes you? That's a tremendous Maybe? Okay dont get confused out approximately this, subsequently your gonna ought to permit him realize u like him if this keeps, satisfactory factor correct now could be supply it a few house and spot what occurs, O you would rather simply ask him why he's being a bit of** !
2016-09-05 10:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words of a player your being played or atleast lied to... fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me, get it? He isn't goin to change i know from personal experince. You should trust your gut on somethings cause it rarely lies, when your full of emotion you blind yourself into seeing what you want. Your better off without him when i got caught like i have so many times there were always so much more she never knew bout! And i'd freak out when asked to do some stuff like that and play it off as you just dont trust me so im mad bout it, when in reality it was cause i already said this one thing not going to be busted out. Dont let yourself be fooled over and over its not worth the pain it puts you through!!
2007-03-21 07:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think hes flipping out because hes worried your going to catch him but I think hes flipping out because its been three years and you dont trust him.
to be honest I would be in your shoes doin all that, I have a hard time trusting guys but even if he did move on its been two years but the next sign of something act on it.
2007-03-21 07:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if u been wit him for 3 years n u love him then try to work out things mayb hes not makeing out wit other females u should trust him thats what i would do
2007-03-21 07:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by barroom_babyblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the truth: You CAN'T TRUST THIS GUY. If you have to ask... If you have to wonder.... If you have to question... your heart deserves MORE than that. Set his butt free to hook up with all the skanky chicks he wants. If you stay with this guy, you're going to torture yourself with questions every time you're away from one another. You deserve someone you can be sure about!
2007-03-21 07:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by mrvid2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear lord....its called MOVE ON hes a liar shes a hoe..enough said...time to find a real guy..who cares if u guys been together that long its doesnt matter once a liar ALWAYS a liar an i know that from experience...be smart for once...its soo simple to see what hes doing and what kind of guy he is..jus move on goodluck
2007-03-21 07:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋