If this happens in the dating phase early in the relationship will it continue once there has been committments like engagement or marriage? Can people change? Do they value the relationship more in different stages? Curious.
2007-03-21 07:16:39 · 25 answers · asked by foodart2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh- this is a hard one.... It can happen early in a relationship. Some people literally get addicted to past relationships. Let me give you an example. I was in an unhealthy relationship with an alcoholic, then I met my husband. I told the alcholic I didn't want to see him anymore and started dating my husband (but I kept going over to the other guy's house to get drunk.) I was addicted to drinking. It took me a few months to stop- I finally told my husband ( boyfriend then) and realized what I stood to lose. I stopped drinking and married my man! People can change yes...If they couldn't we would all be in a sorry state! I think what you said in your last sentence is true for some people. I didn't place much value on what i had in the beginning until i saw I could lose it.. Now I would give my life for my husband- he is my world and means everything to me. Sorry for using a personal experience, I hope you get my point.
2007-03-21 07:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has cheated more than once early in the relationship there are problems. The problem may solely be personal or also have to do with her partner and the relationship.
She is a cheater no doubt...but I would find out WHY she is cheating.
Cheaters can change IF THEY REALLY WANT TO...IT IS A CHOICE...unfortunately most don't.
This is how I see it...a relationship is a relationship and it should be valued and cherished the same whether dating, engaged or married.
If a person valued the RELATIONSHIP ITSELF they wouldn't cheat in the first place. They would communicate their feelings and discuss any needed issues that need fixed and try to work them out before they would even consider cheating.
It simply takes maturity, relationship skills and self control.
2007-03-21 07:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some say "once a cheater always a cheater".. well im gonna be honest i did cheat, but now im with the person who i will stay with forever.. We are engaged and are planning our wedding.. People can change.. I wasnt happy when i cheated so maybe she is happy with the relationship.. communication is a big factor in a relationship. Just sit down with her and talk with her.. ask her to tell u how she feels and u do the same.
2007-03-21 07:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...my now ex gal cheated on me twice! She couldn't even explain to herself or me why she did it...she just did it...that's all. It won't be happening a third time...of this I can assure her and me. I say cheaters never stop cheating. They simply are the most unsettled relationship destructive individuals that roam the planet. They should have a special private island we can ship them all off to really. That way they can all cheat to their hearts content, without busting up all the respectfull heartfelt people of the planet. In all honesty...cheaters are people with huge insecurity issues mostly. A good therapist of some kind could possibly create some corrective motor skills for them...but I doubt it. Once a cheater...allways a cheater. These are some of the most painfully relationship destructive individuals I know of. Have I said enough yet?
2007-03-21 07:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.
I had a friend who's fiance cheated on him, when he found out she said it was a one time thing and only because she would never be with another man again. Fool bought it. Of course she cheated again after they were married. That time she pulled out the old and well used female line "it was your fault for being away at work so much". The fool went to counseling and he forgave her. She cheated again and he finally divorced her.
If she can cheat on you now, it's easier for her to do it later. There are no stages of increased commitment with a woman.
2007-03-21 07:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to get yourself out there to find someone that can be faithful... This kind of behavior is a fluke when it happens once, it is a pattern when it happens twice, and it is a lifestyle if it happens thrice...
Put yourself out on the dating network. Use the site below. I recommend it to all of my clients and have had continued success with it. Plus, the people that frequent the site are serious individuals looking for long-term love interests. This means a faithful relationship...
You can either stand up to your problems and find alternative solutions, or they will continue to walk all over you.
There are plenty of beautiful women out there who truly know how to treat a man!
2007-03-21 12:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. How can you cheat on someone if you're only dating them? Are you two dating exclusively? Have you discussed it or did you just assume it?
Now, if you ARE exclusive then you need to cease to be so. She obviously doesn't want to have you be the only man in her life, so don't have her be the only woman in yours. Date other people and maybe it will work out with her and maybe it won't. Its entirely possible she would act differently if you two had a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but if you're only dating, you can't tell since people that are dating go out on dates with many people.
2007-03-21 07:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless u guys both stated that u were dating exclusively then its not cheating. its cheating when u are in a relationship. thats why u date to see if the person has qualities u like to pursue into a relationship.
2007-03-21 07:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well technically she didn't cheat if you haven't solidified the relationship with one another.
The fact that your questioning her loyalty means that you should have a talk with her.
My heart says she will cheat but its not my call...I'm bias anyways b/c I don't sleep with more than one guy during the dating phase so it's a toss up.
2007-03-21 07:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by yunchi30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's already shown you her true colors. If you're just dating and she's already willing and wanting to cheat, you can bet your *** she will when you're engaged or married. I doubt someone like that will change. NO ONE deserves to be cheated on - go find yourself a girl who respects you enough to be with you and only you.
2007-03-21 07:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋