I have dated this guy for 3 years. I love him but I am having trouble deciding what i should do. You see he always accuses me of cheating on him. I cant go any where or do anything but he can. I have to always have my phone with me and I even have to go sit at his job all day. I cant talk to the people he works with because I end up having sex with them too. I have never cheated on him and i dont go out if he is not with me. I have told him about the guys I have had sex with. I was a single parent when I met him. He knew I had kids before we went out what is his deal? I have broken up with him so many times but he makes me feel guilty and I always end up back here. I am at a loss Some one please help.
2007-03-21 07:12:04 · 18 answers · asked by countrygirl03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously already know the answer. You're just looking for affirmation at this point. And, here it is: GET OUT! GET OUT NOW and NEVER LOOK BACK.
This guy is controlling you and obviously has self-esteem issues that he needs to work on for himself, before he can commit himself to a relationship with you or anyone else. Maybe something happened in his past that has made him this way. But you don't need to be the one that suffers for it. You are entitled to a life, too.
Left unchecked, this guy will smother you. This time, when you say goodbye, MEAN IT. This will only get worse. When he can't control you with words, he WILL turn violent. This is not a guess, it's a fact. Leave him and don't answer the phone when he calls. If he comes to your house, don't open the door. You deserve better!
2007-03-21 07:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by mrvid2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him, and have a straight foward discussion, if he can't trust you, then you are through. Break up with him, and DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK, a guilt trip is a form of power over you. A healthy relationship is not one where one holds power over the other, and a healthy relationship can not survive without trust. If he can not trust/beleive you, then your relationship will only degrade.
2007-03-21 14:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! you're really going through a mess, there is no need in pursuing a relationship with him, nreak it off and let it go, I don't care how bad he may make you feel or try to make you feel guilty you need to be happy and believe me your kids know whats going on and they're not happy, DO NOT, put another man before your kids, they are depending on you. You are being selfish to yourself and the kids by not allowing yourself freedom, you are in a mental prison, your bf has you right where he wants you.
2007-03-21 14:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling he,s doing the cheating! Remember this the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result!
2007-03-21 14:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by olddad1019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid it is time to "kick him to the curb".
He sounds like a controlling personality and people who accuse others of cheating are sometimes the cheater themselves.
2007-03-21 14:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is not just obsessive it is dangerous....you need to talk with him and tell him things have to change ..he should go to counseling ..alone or with you...but do not marry him until this is resolved..and there may be a good chance he doesn't want to put the effort into changing..then you must leave him
2007-03-21 14:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess ur not that in to him...cuz if you are i dont think u'll make that mistake that u did to him...
well realized what u really want dear...plus both of deserved to be free and find the right person for both of u right???
i can't mis judge u...maybe u have agood reason to be feeling this way...and to be honest no matter what u decided...hopefully will give u happiness in ur life...good luck
2007-03-21 14:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy has a control issue. It sounds like he is practicing emotional abuse on you. If you stay with him, he may begin to practice physical abuse. If you want to continue to be with him, ask him to get counseling. If he refuses, then you should forget him. If he isn't willing to work hard for the relationship, then it isn't important to him.
2007-03-21 14:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably had a unfaithful GF in the past which made him paranoid ..OR hes just scared cozz hes not trustworthy..!
2007-03-21 14:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's controlling and he wants to keep you in your place. think about it..why do you keep going back? Is is because you love him or becuase you feel like you need a man? You don't need anybody
2007-03-21 14:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋