My boyfriend and I love each other, everything is going perfect.. EXCEPT in the bedroom. I just feel like we have absolutely no sexual chemistry. And when we try to talk about it and figure anything out, we just end up arguing about it. Neither of us have ever had problems in the bedroom in previous relationships. I love him and want to be with him, and he feels the same way, so no answers like 'Just move on' please. Anyone have any other advice on what to do though?
2007-03-21 07:07:50 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well how OPEN are you? If there is lameness it is because one or both of you are being reserved and not acting as you want to. Everyone has a freak flag, people often don't fly it for fear of scaring someone off. Tell him everything you find hot, encourage him to do the same. Dont judge (that doesn't mean you have to DO anything, but it is good to know what turns someone on).
2007-03-21 07:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
With everything going so well in your relationship, you both probably have high expectations in the bedroom. This may be leading to some performance anxiety on both parts. Try having a few drinks(not sloppy drunk) to loosen up one evening, put some mood music on and light some candles. I think that if yourelax and have one good night together, that will solve your problem!
2007-03-21 07:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As strange as this might sound... if you do so well in other places, then maybe you need to find away to make the bedroom like those other places... now to explain that; try making things more casual. hang out in your bedroom, or his, and dont think about sex, jut be there, and comfortable. then be slow, just lie down with him, kiss him maybe, and just make things very relaxed. let it progress from there. and if that doesnt work, then try the opposite... get everything somehow very heated, passionate. itll flame on from there
2007-03-24 09:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just overthinking it. Try some itimacy exercises before getting all hot and heavy. Talk about your fantasies...or write them down. Write an erotic story about you and your partner. Be creative....and focus on the positive.
2007-03-21 07:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do you need in a strong relationship? communication right? well talk to him see whats going on. he should be open to you and you should be open to him. don't be shy about this talk as much as you have to till you dont have problems. ask him what he likes and you let him know what you like. dont be afraid. maybe you need a little experimentation like role playing, fulfill each others fantasy's.
2007-03-21 07:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by gansito 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry its ok it happens, sex is not important in a relationship, well not for me. my advice is dont do it for a lonf while and wen the time is right i'll happen and im 100% sure i'll be great..good luck
2007-03-21 07:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might not be ready but its a different story if the two of you have ever than it. he might think that ur the one and that he wants to want.
2007-03-21 07:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by gianluca c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you gotsta stick his D in da hole
2007-03-21 07:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by blunt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
COMMUNICATION.
2007-03-21 07:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by Michael b 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋