This weeked my boyfriend invited me to a dance concert and one of my guy friends insisted on tagging along. My boyfriend doesnt like him at all. Later on, the three of us went dancing and i ended up getting drunk and crying at home for 2 hours. My boyfriend ignored me for 2 days. He finally spoke and said he was trying to be patient and that i am nice. He said i danced more with my guy friend, which wasnt true. I kept pushing him and later he said that "its not what he wants" and "he found out all bad things about me" and "he is dissapointed with me". I dont know what hes expecting. His old roomate kicked him out so hes been living with me and paying half the bills. I didnt want him to move in, i kept saying wed just be friends. If i nag at him, he says we should just be friends. I said i want to be more. I asked where my lover is, he said on vacation and smiled. I told him to give me another chance. I said its probably best if he moves out. He says he doesnt want to
2007-03-21 07:07:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course he doesn't want to, then he'd have to pay all of his own bills!!! Kick the guy to the curb!
2007-03-21 07:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it was not good that you let your guy friend tag along when it was your boyfriend who made plans for you and him to attend the dance concert. This was totally inconsiderate of you. Then he sees you get drunk (which is very unappealing for a guy to see his girl do), you ended up paying more attention to your guy friend, cried like a spoiled child when you got home, can you not see why he is dissappointed in you? What you are doing by your behaviour is having him begin to question if you are the kind of girl he wants to continue a relationship with. Put yourself in his shoes and try and see how he sees it. I am so trying to help you because I truly believe you are not seeing things clearly. Please start being more responsible regarding how you treat him and others, as well as yourself, if not, I am afraid you are headed for dissappointment and heartbreak. Take care.
2007-03-21 14:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a complete mess and it's only going to get worse. Why are you having another guy tag along on a night out with your man? It sounds like the two of you are only staying together in order to not hurt each other's feelings. Break up and move on. Find someone who likes you for you (ya know, can tolerate all "the bad things"), as well as someone that you would WANT to have a nice night out alone.
2007-03-21 14:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend broke "for good" about a year and a half ago. He continued to live with me until 6 MONTHS ago. We were sleeping in different bedrooms, getting on each others last nerves, basically just loving to hate eachother. So when he finally moved out, he turned into a completely different person, sending me flowers and texting me sweet messages all day (stuff he never ever did for the 6years we were together.
Point being is you don't know what you've got til its gone. Let him move out. He WILL miss you, and when you do rekindle the relationship, it will be like you just started to date again -Fresh and Fun!!
Good Luck Girl!!!!!!
2007-03-21 14:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds over to me, he likes having a place to stay sure and does not want to move, understandably, he has you wrapped around his little finger. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.stop putting so much energy in what he wants and more in what you do, does it make you feel good and secure that everytime everything isn't exactly how he wants it...he threatens you with just being friends......I wouldn't want that but I don't know you and maybe if you did pay attention to yuour "guy friend" it was because you don't get any or at least enough, from your supposed boyfriend. good luck...guys are confusing!!!
2007-03-21 14:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More time isn't going to change anything with the same situation if you are most concerned about wanting more from him romantically.
He can always move back in later, right? Nothing about your problem is irreversible.
2007-03-21 14:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by XL HaHa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dear one are being used and abused. If he won't move out you mentioned a guy friend, have him help you convince him to move out. And of course he doesn't want to move out it will inconvenience him. If your name is on the lease then it's your place and he is there with your permission only.
2007-03-21 14:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by hvykey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make things work out. If you told him to move out and he says no then he still wants you and is giving you another chance.
2007-03-21 14:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have allowed a friend to tag along on a date your boyfriend planned for the two of you. Men are jealous even if the other guy is gay/invalid/married. You shouldn't have danced with your friend and your boyfriend has every right to be angry with you.
2007-03-21 14:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just make him move seems like this is taking up all your time to be worring about.... start fresh and new... Its Funner Being SINGLE anyway!
2007-03-21 14:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by c_leoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋