how can i get him (my brother) to realize it's a waste of money and it's killing his brain slowly..and we aren't talkin ciggarettes either folks...grr!!
2007-03-21 07:06:47 · 14 answers · asked by kahnechick87 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't force him..it'll just make it more tempting for him to continue smoking. If he wants to stop smoking he will. If he wants to be healthier he will stop smoking. If he relizes that smoking doesn't make u any cooler, any better, any smarter, OR any richer...then he WILL stop smoking. You brother is probably smart enough to relize that smoking isn't only gonna affect his health...but his relationship with you. If he truely does accept u as his own brother then he will stop smoking..for his sake and yours. Respect ur brother don't try and tell him what to do..even if it is the right thing. He will learn from his own mistake and relize one day that because of his actions he lost all his money, has poor health and has no what so ever relationship with you!! But don't try and break off the relationship completely be there for support. Im sure that hes just lost right now. Be his guidence....do some more stuff with him don't just lay around praying to GOD that he'll make ur brother stop smoking. Make ur brother more occupied. Ur brother will soon kno that after all the years of smoking it wasn't even worth a single penny of it. If it really is starting to ruin everything in his life.....i'd suggest u'd bring him into rehab. If u luv him...do what u think is best for him...and i'd think thats rehab. Good luck with ur brother:)
2007-03-24 12:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any substance addiction, it is solely dependant upon the abuser's desire to quit. The only thing I can share is from my family's personal experience. One of our brothers addiction was destroying his family financially and emotionally. His wife did an intervention. This brother didn't want to lose his family. In an intervention the parties involved in the relationship share the pain the substance abuser is causing in the family. They state outlined boundaries and if the substance abuser doesn't agree to such boundaries the family members will no longer associate with that member until they are ready to submit to the guidelines. In this case the brother went to rehab and a 12 step group. There are different intervention methods.
This site has some information that might be of use to you:
http://lovinginterventions.com/
I wish you well.
2007-03-21 07:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by GloBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your ages, but if your brother is a minor, tell you parents. It might seem like your ratting him out, but in the long run, tough love might be what he needs. They can drug test him and send him to rehab if necessary. While pot is definitely not the most dangerous of drugs, it is illegal, and it is NOT harmless. Unfortunately, if your brother is not a minor, then he will have to learn the hard way. A drug conviction will take away many opportunities for your brother, including college aid and career opportunites. You could point this out to him, but he probably won't listen. Get other people involved, and let let your brother know that while you're all there for him if he wants to help himself, you're not going to stand around and watch him hurt himself. You can only do what you can do. I'm not a religious person by any means, but this often rings true for me:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 07:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all to Falco #1 that is so NOT attractive. Noone is gonna stop smoking weed or any other drug because someone wants them to no matter what you say to them. They have to really want it themselves. And some day he's gonna wake up and realize all these years have passed him by and he's gonna feel like a loser because he probably didn't accomplish much. and he's gonna think of all the money he wasted and what all he could have for all that money (house,car,ect) Not to mention you really can't find a good paying job unless you can pass a drug test. But these are all things he has to realize himself and you can talk till your blue in the face, but nothing you can say is really gonna get through to him. Maybe he'll grow up some day! good luck
2007-03-21 07:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lil'MissThang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your brother is of an age where he can make his own decisions... there is no way to get him to stop if it's something he thinks makes him feel better, regardless of the money he spends on it. If not, threaten to tell his grandma!
2007-03-21 07:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can express your opinion but in the end it's his choice.
Personally,I think alcohol is a much more dangerous drug
than pot so I would be more worried if his problem was
drinking.
2007-03-21 07:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not that easy to stop smoking it's a really bad habit. My brother smokes too. And i have tyred very hard to make him, stop smoking some how but it doesn't work.
2007-03-21 07:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ashisweety 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my brother is the same way,theres nothing you can do about it, hes is his own person... u gotta let him learn the hard way if he doesnt want your advice... your his sister not his mom... thats what i hear from my brother when i tell him to stop too... :) good luck to your brother, hopefully he can stop, my brother has yet to learn that he shouldnt smoke.....cuz hes stupid
2007-03-21 07:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by young army wifey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aghhh i've been in that situation with friends...But if it was my siblings...I would call the cops, tell my parents, threathen him, get him a couselor, scare him...Anything..get him to stop no matter what!! Good luck
2007-03-21 07:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's hard watching anyone do something we believe will have a bad effect. Fact is, we cannot control what anyone does but ourselves.
2007-03-21 07:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋