Wedding Guests?

Question

I am planning my wedding and so far there is a guest count of 250. I want to know if it would be rude to just invite our imediete family members to the ceremony and dinner. Then send a seperate invitation to our reception to aquaintences ( friends from work, people that we dont see on a regular). We will be providing finger sandnwiches, hors d'oeuvres, cheese and fruit throughout the partying. Unless I win the lottery, then EVERYONES invited!LOL

I'm sorry , I guess the way I wrote it , it sounds crazy....the people who attended the ceremony and dinner would still be staying for the partying, nobody would be leaving. But the people who are just invited to the reception would be having the finger sandwiches and such, plus they would be there for the toast,first dance, bouquet toss, garter toss and would be receiving souvenirs.

Answer 1

yes, it's very rude. I rcv'd a wedding invitaion like that last year. I didn't go to the wedding at all. If you can't afford to host all the guest, then don't invite them all. When I got the invite I was so insulted. It's like ok you want me to get dressed get a gift, but I'm not good enough to include with the rest of your guest. I would have felt much better if I wasn't invited altogather. Trust me people understand the whole limiting of guest. Besides it's going to seem as if you are gift gabbing, if you do that.

Answer 2

Unless EVERYONE has already been invited to EVERYTHING, then NO IT IS NOT RUDE!!! I feel the same way, especially when that many people are involved. I enjoy people I work with and so so friends, but I didnt feel they need to be present at the ceremony or at the dinner I have to pay for. They can come to the dance, bout I think only close special people should be present for the rest. Also people who JUST come to the dance SHOULD NOT be expected to bring a gift! Keep that in mind! Don't listen to people who say its rude, 250 people invited to everything is a bit much, especially when its people who arnt close family and friends, and I wouldn't want to pay for 250 people dinner's AND snacks at the dance. Hope this helps, and have a great wedding!!

Answer 3

Generally, the reception IS the dinner. Can't you either scale back the offerings at the reception overall or invite only those with whom you are closest? Try to set a limit of the number of people you can afford to invite and work from there, starting with your immediate families, then extended family and good friends, then coworkers, and acquaintances. You don't need to invite everyone you've ever known. I can't really see a way you could invite someone only to an after-hours event, but not the ceremony.

We've been having conversations about guest lists lately and we've found a good runle of thumb is if they haven't been in yoru home in the past 2 years AND if you haven't spoken to them on the phone in the past year, they aren't invited. I understand you wish to celebrate your day with all yoru friends, but it isn't necessary to invite cousin Beth you met once as a child, and have only ever heard from when there's a funeral or the like.

Answer 4

For starters cut your list in half - and no I dont think it is rude. Because if you really think about it, how many invitees actually go to the wedding. All they really want to do is go to the reception. So to help them and you out - immediate family to wedding/dinner and the rest reception. Put the question the other way - which would you rather attend the wedding/dinner or just the reception, most people will say "reception". So if you have not made your invites out make two - (if in your budget) one that states all three functions and one that just states the reception.

Answer 5

it might make the people invited to the later party feel bad if they knew they're going to the 2nd half of the party. but toher than that i sound ok.
hope you win the lottery :)
what about having a breakfast in the morning instead of the dinner so you can have just your immediante family and don't have to serve dinner just give people plenty of time to get their own before the reception or after it and serve the snacks at the reception?!
just a thought, good luck

Answer 6

That sounds fine, but you will need to somehow let them know that dinner will not be provided and there will be hors d'oeuvres so they wont show up on an empty stomach. Also, you cant call it a reception because that implies a meal to be served and you wont have a meal, just hors d'oeuvres

Answer 7

Yes. Whoever is on your guest list gets invited to the ceremony, dinner and dance. If you can't afford to host that many, cut down the total list.

Answer 8

In my opinion, you would be just fine to invite close friends to your ceremony! If you think about it, the reception is the most fun part of a wedding, and most acquaintances will be bored during the ceremony since they dont have that closeness of family. In all, it will be a relief to them, I think it is a GREAT idea!!! Congratulations and good luck to you!!!!

Answer 9

I'll tell you how most would feel if they got invited to the reception and not the ceremony...I wouldn't attend...People will be offended...Its better if those you dont know to well, you not invite period...

Answer 10

Yes, that is rude. if you can't afford it then don't invite that many people. A friend did this to me and not only did I find out about it I didn't go and I took the gift back!