Stuck in 2 minds!? Help!?
I live in bristol at uni, i have split up with my gf and still have 2 see her everyday and we all have a house arranged for next year and are going to live together. i dont really like things at uni at the moment and spend alot of time back home missing lectures, i am hoping next year that i will have a job and be part of some clubs so i can spend as little time in the house as possible and see the housemates as little as possible too but im a bit worried that it wont be that simple. im worried i will feel the same in september but i dont want to lose out on the house in case im fine with everything by then. what should i do? i only live 45 mins drive from uni but im not sure i want to commute either because part of being at uni is being independant.
oh, i also feel like the friends we had are kinda going to her side of things so i have no friends as such any more and need to start from scratch, like my 1st year again.
2007-03-21 07:00:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep my dear dat is just how life is as u grow older u have to make more important decisions.am sure u will pull thur it good luck
2007-03-21 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I see why you would have gotten a house earlier but why are you going through with it don't commit yourself to a place you will then try to avoid look this is harsh but you are going to have to find your own life not cling onto her life or your old one either stay in uni don't let her take a good education from you as well you are in college you are supposed to have a few relationships that don't pan out or go as far as you want live your life. what are you going to do when you get older? work with a boss and let him tell you who you can date and who you can't or where you can go and where you can't? you are letting her do that now. you are letting one bad relationship ruin your chances at a better life, education and job. you are also letting her tell you where to live. she was a gf not your mother or wife. you need to get out there and experience more, live some you are going to make some bad decisions and some good. you say you want to be independent yet you are letting just a few people tell you what to do. unless this is going to be your house in name find another place to live I am sure there are some people who will rent a basement or room to a college person fairly inexpensive or at least with a fair price.
2007-03-21 07:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't drop University. It's important to have a good education. It will be easier for you to get a job. I know employers want experience but it's an advantage to have a degree. Stop missing lectures. You will regret this one day.
Also, why are you going to live with your gf if you are not together anymore? that doesn't make any sense at all!
I would cancel the plans for the house and find another suitable accommodation for yourself.
2007-03-21 07:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about how you are going to feel seeing her dating someone or even bringing them to stay at the house. You do not want to be stuck in that situation. I think your "friends" will completely understand how you feel and support you if you need to back out of the house deal. Don't drag yourself through that mud. You want to have fun at the University, not be mired down in self loathing and pity. Get out while the getting is good.
2007-03-21 07:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i know! just dont think about it and do what you said an start from scratch.
2007-03-21 07:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋