I'm going out tonight with someone I've been out with a few times before, and I'm pretty sure things will head toward the bedroom. I really want that to happen, but I'm on my period. I don't want to avoid fooling around because I don't want to make him think I don't want him (because I do), but nor do I want him to be freaked out by my having my period.
I use the cup, which sits entirely inside me so it's not externally visible like a tampon is. The only way he'd be able to tell it's there is from the inside.
So do I owe him a warning? Or should I not say anything and smoothly avoid sex? Or should I not let things get hot at all and avoid the subject entirely? If I say anything, do you think he'll get freaked out? Please help!!!
2007-03-21 06:59:35 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He will not freak out..
Take it from me, as embarrassing as you may think it is.. It's not.. He knows woman go through there period every month. If you feel he is a great guy then tell him he will understand..
when it starts getting hot and heavy or i tell my guy that i am "out of commission for a few days" he knows what i mean.. or just tell him .. sorry I'm on my period..he will understand. keep kissing him so he knows you are still interested but you just can't be intimate with him today..If he freaks out which i doubt he will.. he is not the guy for you..
2007-03-21 07:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't tell him. Not only do guys don't want to know it will be a yuck factor when he thinks about you in the future. DO NOT TELL HIM.
Fact is he doesn't care that it's that time of the month, it's something guys are or get use to. It will be something unspoken after ward and he will ignore the fact at the time. Don't freak out because he won't. Just use the bathroom before, guys are use to that too, and go for it.
Have fun and be careful.
2007-03-21 07:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely owe him a warning. If you let him get all worked up and then yank the cord, he'll be pissed. Why not play it by ear, see how things are going and when it gets past stage 1 and 1/2, stop for a minute, tell him you're really enjoying this, but you feel it's only fair to warn him you've got your period.
2007-03-21 07:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by writeaway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go about your date as you normally would. You know it really is not necessary to tell him you are on your period, If a little heavy petting goes on and he tries to pursue further action then you could let him know that it is that time of the month and that it is best if you two wait.
Besides the fact that he will most likely have more respect for you, considering you are holding out at least one more date. It is okay to NOT jump right into a sexual relationship with someone.
2007-03-21 07:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously uncomfortable with him yet, if he were someone you were seeing and sleeping with for sometime you'd just say it was your time of the month and leave it up to him, since you aren't comfortable with him on a verbal level, don't go there on a physical level until you are off your period for the first time. Keep things cool avoid sex, when you do it together for the first time you want to be able to enjoy it without worrying about his possible hang ups.
2007-03-21 07:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cup! Girl this is a normal thing that all of us women go through and guess what guys know it. Some of them don't want to hear about it, but they always get over it. Tell him you don't feel good and avoid the date until it goes off. If you are that hot....
2007-03-21 07:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, men do not like hearing about periods. Smoothly avoid sex and the next time he has the opportunity, he'll want it even more.
2007-03-21 07:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a funny way...like Aunt Flow is visiting and does he run the red light? Make it a joke and it will take some of the pressure off. Let him know you are interested but would like your first time to be Aunt Flow free because she is such a pain.
2007-03-21 07:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him the truth. If you really want to be with this man, wait until you can give him your undivided attention, i.e. not worrying about mother nature and the mess. If you withhold information as simple as this from him, it could build a lack of trust on his part in the future.
If he cares about you he will be OK with the news and will respect your feelings to wait until it is over with. Word of Warning though...whether or not you are on your cycle use condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy!
2007-03-21 07:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front nobody likes playing games when it comes to matters of the genitals. Maybe as soon as she is over you can call him back for a rain check.Enjoy your date without putting the main focus on sex but if it gets there warn the man so he ain't totally disgusted if he tries to go in for the kill.
2007-03-21 07:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by ladydream67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋