Please don't listen to what the paid professionals around you are saying while you are so vulnerable.
Hold the baby in your arms. You are the only real mother for this child.
Please go to this site and read what women before you have had to endure.
http://www.exiledmothers.com/
2007-03-21 06:56:21 · 10 answers · asked by lady 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
THE QUESTION SAYS: ARE YOU THINKING OF GIVING YOUR CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION?
WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE?
please let this be for who it is intended.
SPECIAL NOTE: GIVEN HOW QUICKLY YOU RESPONDED, IT'S OBVIOUS YOU DIDN'T GO TO THE SITE AND READ IT.
If you had, you would understand why I feel like girls/women need to be informed.
2007-03-21 07:29:49 · update #1
For those of you who claim you gave your child up for adoption and everything is wonderful and great... good 4 U...
I hv tlkd w/ real mothers for years and havent met one yet who wasnt emotionally scarred.
U get to see and talk to her ALL THE TIME? That's a new one on me & all the other women I've talked to.
THIS IS A POSTING 4 SOMEONE THINKING OF GIVING THEIR CHILD UP 4 ADOPTION. THIS IS TO GIVE THEM INFORMATION THEY MAY NOT HAVE ACCESS TO.
For those of you worried about choices, then let the real mom get ALL the information and make that choice.
Never buy a car you haven't driven....
Never buy property you haven't seen ....
Never buy a pet before checking it out....
NEVER AGREE TO GIVE YOUR BABY AWAY UNTIL YOU'VE HELD IT IN YOUR ARMS FOR A FEW DAYS OR LONGER.
people will help you, your family will come around... just try... wait...
2007-03-24 16:36:16 · update #2
to each-es on i feel that if you cant handle the responsibility you should do whats best for the child and not be selfish some people in this world cant have children and others don't want them so adoption in that case is not an issue and works out positive for both sides
2007-03-27 13:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by twindrea 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What frightens me the most about piece of propaganda is there may be some woman out there faced with an unplanned pregnancy who is scared and confused about her future and her baby's future and she makes her decision based on some site obviously developed by women who have had negative adoption experiences. By doing so, she is not making a well-informed decision.
I went to the site and much of the contents were horrid. As an adoptive mom, I'm saddened that there is so much hatred for the adoption community by the site's creator. I'm also appalled at the erroneous information there such as how open adoptions most always become closed. Also, the "Alternatives to Adoption" look good in black and white, but I question how doable they are, how much the child would be bounced around from place to place, and how long would it take for mom to be able to begin providing for herself and her child.
If there are any women reading this who is considering placing their child for adoption, please find a reputable agency and at least get counseling. I'm thankful our children's birthmother did because not only did she make a decision to give her children a better life than she could provide them at this time, she gave us two beautiful blessings.
2007-03-24 16:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by onerockinmamato2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I checked out your site. My son was FOUND, STARVING, in a village in Guatemala. He was 2 years old. He was the 2nd child in the line of 4 children. His mother was only 21. She was living with the father of her 3rd and 4th children (twins). Did I mention that he was STARVING. When the mother was told that her infant set of twins could be taken to foster care and put up for adoption so that she could care for her 2yo and her 5 yo she decided to hand her 5 yo to relatives and give her 2 yo up to the authorities. I now am the "ONLY REAL MOTHER FOR THIS CHILD" as you so thoughtlessly put it. I am the one that holds him in my arms every day. I am the one that assures him that there are no RATS under his bed at night. I am the one that promises him that he will never have to go back to Guatemala if he doesn't want to. I am the one that finds food hidden in his room.
I can't even say anymore............
2007-03-24 07:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by guatemama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who do you think you are? How dare you tell people about something you know nothing about! How do you know that these children will not have a better life with the adoptive parents. People like you make me sick!! I have a daughter that I gave up for adoption 12 years ago and she is doing amazing. I get to see her all the time and talk to her whenever my or her heart desires.
2007-03-22 12:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You my dear are an idiot. I'm pro choice but do believe that adoption is the best option. You have got to realize that some mothers do not have the capibility to be loving and caring. That at the age of 14,15 16 your not going to be a good mother..You may love your child but you can not be an effective parent. I'm wondering do you have children that you have raised ?
2007-03-21 07:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by GI 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HOW DARE YOU?!?!?!
Some women make the decision to give their children up for adoption in order for those children to have a better life and more opportunity than they can provide for them. In my mind, giving a baby who you have nurtured and loved for close to a year to someone else because you know they will have a better life is the greatest act of love you can bestow on a child. How dare you imply that it is not?!
Yes, it can be heartbreaking for the mother. I don't deny that. However, the point is that the baby will be just as loved and better provided for than if the birth mother kept the baby. If the mom's that worked up over it, she can always opt for an open adoption and still be a part of her child's life.
Furthermore, how dare you imply that a mother who cares for a child not of her own creation is not a real mother?!?! Some women are biologically incapable of creating offspring and for you to deny them the role of mother simply because they adopted their children rather than conceive them themselves is insulting and ignorant.
2007-03-21 07:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I do agree with you but, what if the person is not capable of handing parenthood? What if that female giving birth is only 13 or 14 or maybe 18 but it not ready. It is for the best interest of the child.
2007-03-21 07:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sumerblue67 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i gave a child up for adoption when i was 20 years old, that was the absolute best decision i made for the child and myself.
2007-03-21 07:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by princess 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I read this yesterday, isn't there a rule about posting the same question time and time again? I understand you feel passionately about this, but this really isn't the place to wave this particular flag.
2007-03-21 07:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
HEY ITS BETTER THAN ABORTION!
2007-03-21 06:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by metalstefl 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋