well my gf broke up with me last march after we had been together for about 2 years. . . she started hanging out with this guy i knew from hs the next day and she knew i hated him and she proceeded to mess around with him like a week after we broke up which was really inconsiderate to me. The reason for the breakup was that she wanted to date around and she said she knew we would get back together sometime. Well it has been almost a year now and they have been together ever since(even though only officially for about 6-7 months) but anyways . . i tried to get her back for the first 2 months and it wasnt going anywhere so I went nc in june and i have been ever since. for the first 6 months she would try calling, texting,emailing . .anything to try to get me to talk to her. . even emailed me on our anniversary that said "today was 2 years" . . she would try to contact me on average every 1-3 weeks for 6 months. she even tried to get me to hang out with her . . continued below
2007-03-21 06:50:28 · 12 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she even tried to gee me to come to her bday party when he was going to be there . .knowing that it would cause a fight . . .then there was a break from december till just a week ago when she sent me another email saying "just wondering if ur done hating me yet". .. i just dont get it . .. she seems happy from what I can tell . . she going on sb with her bf and everything . . why is she trying to contact me after 9 months of me not contacting her back? . . what does she want? What do u think is going on in her head?
2007-03-21 06:52:34 · update #1
you are too long winded dude, thats why she left.
2007-03-21 06:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pedro Sanchez 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She broke up with you because she wanted to date the other guy. She has been trying to contact you for 1 of 2 reasons. 1. She realizes she's an idiot and wants to get back together but won't leave the other guy until she has a sure thing with you. 2. She is trying to make the other guy jealous. This could be for mulitple reasons but either way keep doind what you've been doing. She doesn't seem to care how you feel or she wouldn't have left you in the first place and her rebound guy wouldn't be someone that she knew you hated. Run and don't look back she will keep doing this over and over again if you give her the chance. Find a new girl in NC. I hear there are tons.
2007-03-21 13:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still has some feelings for you, but she has been a very confused person to have given you up to go out with others. If she were really committed to you and her love was really strong enough, then she would not have wanted to be with anyone else. One major question I have is her age/experiences. Maybe she was just too young and inexperienced to know what love was when she first broke up with you. Maybe now that she has gained more experiences she knows how important love really is.
Unfortunately, more often than not, once a cheater, always a cheater. I hate to make such a general statement, because I know there are exceptions. However, she may have too many emotional problems to make a relationship work long-term. Without knowing her personally, it is difficult to answer you. Technically, I guess she didn't cheat if she broke up with you before seeing someone else, but the principle is similar.
Here are some questions you need to ask yourself before even considering ever getting back with her:
1. Can you ever trust her again to not want to be with someone else or not to cheat on you?
2. Can you truly forgive her and restore her to a good relationship or will this always be hanging over your head, impossible to get over?
3. Can you really talk to her? I mean a deep and meaningful conversation? If so, ask her if she really knows what she wants out of life. Also see if she is willing to have a monogamous relationship with you (assuming that's what you want). Whatever deep questions you ask, notice whether she is an emotional basketcase and confused about what she really wants or whether she is a more matured person knowing now exactly what she wants.
With all the heartache I've been through in life, I hate to see people tangled in a relationship with someone they don't belong with. Please be extra wise and think with your mind, not your heart. If you cannot fathom life without her, then make sure you try to figure out what life with her would be and decide if you can handle it.
Ultimately, only you can decide, but with my experiences, this relationship is gonna be rocky from here on out if the two of you cannot work out the issues associated with the break up and everything else that has gone on since then.
2007-03-21 14:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she knows ur a good guy and is trying to keep u hanging on just in case things don't work out with this guy. What she did was mean and inconsiderate. You deserve better. Don't waist ur time with her. She had her chance and she messed up. If u want to be Friends that's cool but only when u r ready.
2007-03-21 14:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jerking you around. She doesn't want you as a steady bf. She just wants you to still like her and want her and wait around forever for her. You may be her backup in case she breaks up with the current bf. She may regularly threaten him that she can always go back to you. She probably contacts you when they have had a fight.
She loves chaos and wants to stir it up between you, her old bf and her current bf. Stop talking to her. She gets off on knowing you are still waiting and hoping for her to come back. Find someone who likes you and wants to be with you now. You are just way to good for this emotionally immature girl.
2007-03-21 13:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to manipulate you! It sounds like it is working. She wants to know she still has you on the side... I'm serious, that is it.. bottom line, plain to see. I know I've been there and done that. She is what is called a "boy collector". You do what you want with the info.
2007-03-21 13:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it too. probably be one of those girls who jump from relationship to relationship, because they are so messed up in the head they cant be in a commited relationship and be content with it.
Forget her, your better off without her. If she contacts you again, tell her to take her drama elsewhere.
2007-03-21 13:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow its been almost a year and your still dwelling on this.She was with that dude before you broke up thats why she was able to start dating him as soon as yall broke up.WAKE UP DUDE.Tell this ho in no uncertain terms that you are through and you dont want anything to do with her lying,cheating worthless self.Or,dwell on it for another year and see how much you accomplish.
2007-03-21 13:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by rbrennum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trying to attract your attention.
2007-03-21 13:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she tries to get you back by making you jelaous.
contact her and you will become a happy couple again
2007-03-21 13:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by A Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a lying, stupid little |-|0. Keep ignoring her and don't worry about it. Move on.
2007-03-21 13:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋