does ot hurt when you have sex? I'm just wondering because my boyfriend is coming over tonight and he said we were going to try and have sex, I'm kinda scared, any tips!?
2007-03-21 06:44:28 · 22 answers · asked by Amelita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way I am 23 yrs old, if you were wondering!
2007-03-21 06:50:50 · update #1
It does kinda hurt the first time. But my question to you is why is your boyfriend TELLING YOU you're going to try to have sex? You are the one to TELL HIM when you are ready for sex and it sounds to me like you are not yet ready.
OMG - do NOT, NOT, NOT use baby oil!!! You will get all kinds of infections, if you use a lubricant, make sure it is water or silicon based. If you do decide to have sex, please use a condom and protect yourself!
2007-03-21 06:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by head_kase13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain should be the last thing on your mind. The real pain is going to come when there is a pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and MOST importantly the emotional scars that the girl ends up with because it's just a sport to the guy. If you're a teenager, don't feel pressure to have sex just because a guy wants you to. Men are able to keep their emotions out of it, but a girl will be broken when the relationship falls apart (and it will, especially if he gets what he wants). Mark my words, you'll be sorry. Wait until you're much older and in a committed relationship. I'm going to get thumbs downms from the young guys, but all women and all the men who are now fathers will agree.
2007-03-21 06:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by TJTB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes the first time does hurt, but it will continue to get better. Just make sure you're ready and that you are doing it with someone that you really care about or else you will regret it later. If you're scared then you're not ready. Just let the moment happen when it's supposed to. Tell him to go slow and easy since it's your first time. Don't rush into things.
2007-03-21 06:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow - if you're scared, dont do it! Sex is a beautiful thing -- if you're ready and you're in love. He said "We're going to try and have sex tonight" ? don't let any boy ever pressure you into it. IYour virginity is far too precious for that.
And yes - sex is not very pleasant the first time. It's akward and slightly painful. But if you're in love, its something you will want to remember for the rest of your life.
2007-03-21 06:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by beckyvincenzes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda hurts, but it's not too bad. The most important thing is for him not to rush through it, and for you to try to relax. Make sure he knows to take his time, make sure you're REALLY turned on before you move from foreplay to sex, and remember to try to keep your body relaxed the whole time- if you tense up it will be more difficult.
2007-03-21 06:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person. My first time didn't hurt. It also depends on the situation. Make sure you're completely comfortable, and tell him to take it easy. And don't push it. If it hurts, stop. You don't want to make it worse, or even make it where you don't enjoy sex.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 06:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rednr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about your age for one thing. do you think you can handle all that comes with sex. theres more then you know. not just maybe having a baby but emotional things too. are you sure hes the one. follow your heart. and yes the first time hurts. just take it easy and you'll be fine
2007-03-21 06:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time will be very weird! Just relax and try to enjoy it. After the first few times, you'll get the hang of it. And only do it, if you're ready! If he cares about you, he'll understand!
2007-03-21 06:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by ParisLynn16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, obviously your a virgin. That is a gift that you need to be careful who you give to, personally I dont think its approriate for him to "tell" you that your going to try having sex. It's that romantic?!?! If you want to give him your virginity then it should be worked up to that point and you shouldn't feel pressured. I know this is old fashioned but I think you should wait until your married to have sex.
2007-03-21 06:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT HAVE SEX UNLESS YOU KNOW FOR SURE YOU ARE READY!!! i cant stress this enough. how old are you? yes it hurts the first time and you may bleed. be sure to wear a condom, no glove no love. be safe and think about it before you do it! dont let your guy tell you when youre ready to have sex. good luck!
2007-03-21 06:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋