I met this guy (actor) who is so cool, crazy and out there (like me), indpndnt, smart...basically he is the kind of guy that I want. I'm a frshmn in college and he is 3 yrs older. Whn we 1st started hanging he told me that he was ready to settle down and he was looking for the person he wants to be w/ forever. After about two weeks he told me he loved me but it was because he wanted to have sex w/ me (I told him that I wasn't going to until he was in love w/ me). He and I both know why he said it. I havn't brought it up. He also says that he's not able to be in a relationship (even though he just was in 1 that he would have continued had the girl not been crazy). He likes spending time w/ me*, loves my body, says that I'm the sexiest girl he's ever been w/. He enjoys my company (he's always inviting me places). He calls and texts me all the time and calls me baby. But he doesn't want to commit to me supposidly because I want to be serious and maybe marry him one day. I don't!
2007-03-21 06:39:59 · 10 answers · asked by ForestGirl20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since I did have sex with him, it is really hard for me to drop it. I thought he was starting to develop serious feelings for me because of his actions. But he says things like, "Honestly, you're not always on my mind because I have so many other issues in my life." He does have a lot of crap on his plate. but he really is a good guy. He's also a really good actor so maybe I'm just playing myself along with him. He's a nympho so even though I am the "most sexiest" and sensual and real or whatever I don't know if that matters to him when it comes down to the climax if you know what I mean. He gave me the line, "If i were thinking about being in a commited relationtship it would totally be with you." That kind of pissed me off. But it's so hard to leave knowing that he was apart of me. I'm also the first girl he ever had sex with using a condom. He's the first I ever had sex without, so I feel a semi non-existent connection to his bio particles.
2007-03-21 07:02:27 · update #1
Leave.
2007-03-21 06:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him to place the condom on each and every time - what are you, loopy? This guy is slick. He starts out asserting that he needs to calm down. Then he united statesthe ante by utilising asserting he basically needs to get you in the sack (this make him look oooooh badddd oooohhh risky!) Then he supplies the duty for the relationship to you and tells you that he's have been given to push you away given which you are attempting to get him to marry you. This guy ought to be analyzing a script for the play, 'a thank you to maintain a woman on a Leash'! tell him you in effortless terms have intercourse if he wears a condom. tell him that that's evidence which you relatively do no longer prefer to marry him and watch him attempt to curl THAT around. intercourse without condoms is relatively no longer cool, risky - or perhaps he's acquainted with extra perfect. And he's dumb sufficient to make a controversy of it (you are the only woman he ever wore a condom with HAH! So ask him what proportion little ones call him Daddy these days...) Lose this guy. Or make him choose you sufficient to handle you extra perfect. you're in college - get excitement from your self. Get to understand persons and date. Your question grow to be approximately an open relationship - he's the only one with an open relationship there.
2016-10-02 12:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by ulberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here was your first mistake: "I met this guy (actor)." That should have been the end. Any man who lies for a living is going to be great at acting for you too, darling. He won't commit - not today or tomorrow. He's just a kid looking for a benefits without the obligation.
You're not looking for advice here because you know the answer. Now, the question to you is - Are you strong enough to follow through with what you know is right?
2007-03-28 09:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by |sojourn| 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an intelligent girl. Drop him and hit the books. You're a freshman in college. Meaning, 18 or 19? I don't mean to sound condescending but he sounds like a predator to me. Preying on young women just away from home enjoying new found freedom. You think it's love I know. And it will hurt but you need to drop him before you end up with an STD or pregnant. Good luck.
2007-03-29 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by alikilee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young and 5 years from now you would look back at yourself and see a different person. Simply, enjoy life safely. You don't need to plan your whole dating relationship now. Just work on yourself, and having someone maintenance you every now and then is okay. It's life!
2007-03-29 06:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by urban guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a contradiction of terms... but simply put you can't
expect sincerety and commitment in your type of relationship
and if that is what you feel you need then you are wasting your
time.... Perhaps you should try letting it happen instead of making it an achievable goal that you set before commiting...
2007-03-21 06:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder then words. Any woman who has self respect or self worth would show him the door. He has made it clear he is not interested in any kind of a relationship with you other then sex. He is playing you and I am sorry that you fell for his lines.
2007-03-21 06:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wants to keep you around as a little sex buddy/booty call. Don't let any guy treat you like that especially when you just said yourself that he lied to you.
2007-03-21 06:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is worth it if you have something in common, evidently you do.. it is comaptability and good sex.. next?????
2007-03-29 05:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its not worth ur time
2007-03-28 18:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by jai1603 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋