I know that it is superficial to be turned off by crooked teeth - I'm not perfect either - and I wouldn't stop dating him b/c of it since he has other amazing qualities, but I wanted advice on how I could tactfully broach the subject without hurting his feelings, or if I even can? I know he has always been self-conscious about this, he never smiles in pictures, getting them fixed would improve his self-confidence, and he has the money to do it. I just don't know if I can even say anything since the subject is so sensitive. I know most of you will say he deserves someone better than me for even asking this question, but please try to be kind in your answers.
2007-03-21 06:32:42 · 25 answers · asked by pixiestk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking as a guy with bad teeth (I am missing two right in front) this is a subject that is very near and dear to my heart.
I think it is very superficial to pay more attention to what is in his mouth than what is in his heart. If he is good to you and treats you nice then what difference does it make if his teeth are crooked?
Chances are he has already thought about braces a lot and maybe just hasn't gotten them for one reason or another. Those of us with bad teeth usually do think about it so you bringing it up is only going to make him self conscious no matter how you do it.
If it is that big an issue for you then just bring it up. Ask him and he will either respect your honesty or change his opinion of you for being so superficial.
2007-03-21 06:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are your teeth perfectly straight? If not, I would start by telling him that you are thinking about braces, or just going to the dentist to see what he can do to improve your smile. I would not say ONE WORD about his teeth unless he says something first. I am 25 and had braces put on 6 months ago. So for about 20 years, I was embarrassed by my smile and hated people telling me I should do this or that. I'm not dense. But there was always something. If it wasn't money, it was time. If it wasn't time, it was just embarrassment. Trust me, he knows the options out there and he has his reasons for not going. You telling him to get braces is not going to enlighten him one bit. Start out with yourself and if he sees that you are comfortable talking about his, then he might want to join. But don't force it on him.
2007-03-21 06:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by FreakyGeeky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely not initiate the conversation about his teeth. If he brings up the subject and speaks out about his insecurities, then you could tactfully suggest braces to "boost his confidence". But I definitely don't think you should bring that subject up yourself out of nowhere. It might make him feel even worse about his teeth, and perhaps he could even feel as if he isn't good enough for you either.
2007-03-21 06:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I confess....If someone had teeth that weren't perfect..... I wouldn't date them. So I don't believe your superficial. Just trying to help. If it would help his confidence then try to tactfully approach the subject. Maybe find an informative article and leave it somewhere that he could find it. And there could be valid reasons to need something like this done. It can increase the risk of cavities.....
Hope all goes well..........
2007-03-21 06:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by blondegirl1472 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait until you are completely comfortable around him and he is comfortable around you too. Get past the "awkward" stage in your relationship. and once you guys know eachother real well- you could bring it up nicely. If you know for sure that is why he isn't smiling in his pictures - once you know eachother real well - you should ask him why he never does. If he tells you - then suggest the clear type braces. It isn't mean to want to ask this. My husband waited a couple years to ask me. And I loved the idea cause I always hated my teeth.
2007-03-21 06:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice smiles are a must for me...so I would say have you ever thought about getting braces??? I am an open person and I have had to have them so who am I to talk about someone elses jacked up teeth....
2007-03-21 07:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would gently broach the subject by trying to take pics of the two of you, and then ask him to smile. if/when he doesn't, ask him *innocently* why he doesn't smile in pics. hopefully, when he answers, he'll say something about his teeth, at which time you should bring up braces, especially invisalign, which you can't see, and are essentially just retainers that you change every couple of weeks. good luck!
2007-03-21 06:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by wellie danger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring up that you'd like to see him smile more and ask why he hasn't gotten braces if it bothers him- it's better to be honest than to skip around the question, that way you'll set the tone for the relationship and remember to back him up with it.
2007-03-21 06:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you his gf? or atleast a close friend?....if you are then if he can't talk to you about these kinda things then who can he talk to? I would slip an invisiline pamplet or something on his table or something so he can see it, he won't know that you put it there but it would get the idea in his head...and even if he doesn't get them, like you said ...you wouldn't stop dating him b/c of it.
2007-03-21 06:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by darkurax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some actors have crooked teeth it adds character, its whats inside that matters.
2007-03-21 06:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋