why do guys break up with you after you give them what they want?

Question

This happened to me this guy was going out with me and i gave him what he wanted because i loved him and the day after he broke up with me.

Answer 1

Sorry to say this, but he used you. Move on with your life and find a guy that likes you for everything, not just what he wants.

Answer 2

This is why you should wait a while until having sex with a guy. That is the only way you'll know if he really cares about you as a person, and doesn't just want to get in your pants. If a guy will break up with you because you won't have sex with him, or once you already have had sex with him, then you know all he's interested in is sex. You don't want a relationship with a guy like that. Hopefully you've learned from this experience and won't make the same mistake again. Good luck, sweetheart, and try not to take it personally. Some guys are just *****.

Answer 3

Too many men are users and too many women are gullible. Men have learned that the quickest way into a woman's pants is.."I love you". Then they move on to another "I love you". It's really sad because decent men must take the blame for all the players out there. If you are sexually active and don't mind being used as a sex toy, then that's one thing. If you are looking for a long term relationship, make him wait. If he loves really loves you, he will. If he "can't wait", then dump him and move on to someone who will love you. You really answered your own question. He broke up with you BECAUSE you gave him what he wanted. The age old saying is still true: "why buy the cow when the milk is free".

Answer 4

I wish when you girls and guys write in, you would state your age, because it helps us in giving you the best answer. I'm assuming that your around 16. That, in my opinion, is still too young (I mean, really, how many fathers want their daughters to be having sex, at 16?) But, this is the real world, and I know it doesn't work that way. Now, to the question. The guy is a player, and you, my dear, are now a trophy and "locker-room" talk. Don't be surprised, if a lot of guys are suddenly interested in you. Word might get around (I'm not saying, "for sure", but always a possibility) that you're "easy". We both know that's not true, but young, immature boys, most certainly, will believe it, because, well, they're young and immature. It angers me to no end of tomorrow when these punks do this to young girls like yourself and break your heart. But PLEASE, don't let it break your spirit. He was a lieing, using punk, and believe me, you're better off without him. He has no excuse for why he did what he did, except poor upbringing and it will all come back around to bite him in the butt. Good things happen to good people. Positive things happen to positive people. But if you're hanging out with a "crack-head", do you think you'll become the head of a major corporation? He's a loser, and loser things will happen in his world. You're a winner. Just don't believe that you're in love with some guy, till you've got to know him. Go out with him for a good period of time before making a decision as to whether he's worthy of your love. Don't sell yourself cheap. And most importantly, move on. If "rumors" get out about you, don't let it bug you. If it gets out of hand, talk to your counselor at school about the boy in question. They can always have a talk with him and let him know the facts about what he's doing and the repercusions if it doesn't stop. But, that's only if that happens, ok? Don't do anything as a payback, because then you just became him. A loser. Don't listen to idiots like "nonyubus" with his low mentality, answer. Keep your karma clean and strong. You'll be fine. Smile.

Answer 5

This is because you were involved with someone who didn't care about you.

Testosterone is strong, and sex is usually very high on the list of what guys are after. Of course it isn't fair to lie in order to get it, but they will. You have to be more selective in who date, if this isn't something you can handle.

You are probably very young, but as you get older, you will hopefully learn to see red flags and detect a jerk before you give your heart to one.

Good luck, I'm sorry.

Answer 6

I'm not a guy but what I think is because they don't have a challenge anymore after they get what they want so they move on to the next girl.

Answer 7

That's **** up the guy used you.some guy are like that assholes. you should not give your body to some one who does not love you ever.you should never give a guy what he wants if their is not thing serious in the relationship like really love or marriage or engage.do try not make the same mistake again.you should of waited until their was some thing serious in the relationship.if you would not gave him what he wanted he would still be with you right now.he move on to the next girl who wont give it up to him like you did.most guys like a challenge.sorry but he probably did not like the sex at all . he would of stay with you if he would liked the sex and kept on using you for sex.that's all he wanted form you.not all guys are like that and that all he would wanted from you is just sex not thing serious with you ever if he would of like the sex.

Answer 8

Because they always want new test and different look. they never want to stay with one. That's why we Ladies must think twice before we go out with them and, before we're all over them. All they want to do is use us and threw away. We're toys for them when they're done playing with us or they're bored of us all they do is threw us away. So sorry for what happened to you. Next time be careful don't get yourself used, you should have some res peat for yourself.

Answer 9

Most guys like a challenge. Once they defeat the challenge they want to go after a new challenge.

Try not to make this mistake again, unless you don't mind feeling the way you do now.

Answer 10

To be honest, some guys are pigs. They sweet talk girls into believing they love them and the minute the girl gives in, he dumps her. If your boyfriend truly respected you and cared for you, he would have not pressured you. Respect yourself and don't fall for that line again. You're better than that. Find someone who truly cares for you and doesn't pressure you.