My sister is home for 3 weeks from Georgia, no big deal I don't live home anymore. She claims to have had this horrible childhood, blaming it on my mom and they used to always yell and fight. My parents were the best and gave us a perfect childhood. So now their smothering her with attention, and have kind of bumped my fiancee out of the picture, unintentionally, my girl is really hurt, she never had a mom, and has finally gained one through dedication to my family. She has kind of talked it out with my mom, but now my parents are saying that I am being selfish cause I give my sister attitude for the way I talk to her at times, only cause how she treats my mom at times. I am protective of my mom, and she is saying that my sister has changed. I don't see it.
What is going on here!? Should I lay off my sister or what, and what can I say to my fiancee to reassure her?
2007-03-21 06:26:44 · 7 answers · asked by Scott F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it is worth getting into a family argument over. Like you said your sister is only here for 3 weeks.. Sounds like she is being selfish and just seeking attention from your parents for whatever reason. Let it go.. You get to see your parents all the time, she doesn't. Let her soak it up and before you know it she will be gone. Reassure your fiance that things will be great again with your family and her she just needs to be patient until your sister leaves..
you don't want to create waves in your relationship with your sister.. Just love her and give her some extra attention until she leaves..
2007-03-21 07:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude sounds like something out of a soap opera, but your sister might just be looking for some attention, I'm guessing since you don't live with your parents neither does your fiancee so tell her to call your mom once a day and just talk to her over the phone for now, and I'm sure your mom will find a way to get everyone together again, and give everyone the same amount of attention.
2007-03-21 13:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Whatcanbrowndo4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why your parents are slobbering all over your sister because of something you claim did not happen. if that's the case, your parents are a little whacked
i'm sure your parents aren't ignoring your fiancee...their attention has been temporarily diverted by the sister-issue.
the issue between your parents and sister belong to them, not you.. . it might be best to consider staying out of it, unless they ask your advice or opinion...
if your sister is a "snake in the grass" she won't be able to pretend otherwise forever.
take care.
2007-03-21 13:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it. this is betw your mom and your sis, and your fiancee and your mom. sis is having her own issues and is looking for a crutch - her childhood.
judge your sis on the way she treats you only, not mom. your mom is a grown woman and can take care of herself. mom's not stupid. don't muddy the waters. don't ask for advice unless mom asks. if mom talks about it with you, let her know that it only brings you grief and unless she's asking for your opinion, that you'd rather not hear about it.
lay off sis and reassure fiancee that all the wrinkles will get smoothed over. sounds like sis is having a little crisis and once it boils over, all will get back to normal. give fiancee a little spoiling. sounds like she needs it. good luck.
2007-03-21 21:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your sister some slack. I would be worried if they weren't showing love for her. She is their daughter. She lives in Georgia and is only there for a few weeks. Let her get the attention she needs, tell your fiance to grow up- your parents have room in their hearts for everyone.
2007-03-21 13:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay off your sister. It is only for 3 weeks and I think you and your fiance are over reacting to something that will only be for 3 weeks. Sounds like all of you need to grow up.
2007-03-21 14:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all ur fiancee needs now is ur love, try making ur mom understand that she is the only mom ur fiancee has as long as u date.
as for ur sister, try talking to her.she is human and will certainly bulge.
ur fiancee needs u to make her feel all the love in the world.try to pamper her,itll make her feel reassured!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 13:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by lilies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋