My son has been going to the same sitter for about 6 months now and lately he's been crying when I leave him. Before he was very comfortable staying and the last month he's changed. I'm in school and last semester he went everyday and now he only goes 3 days a week. When I tell him he's going to the sitters he starts crying. When we get to the sitters he asks for his sisters. Is this just a form of separation anxiety or does he really not like his sitter?
2007-03-21 06:25:29 · 8 answers · asked by mama3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Can you go a bit early sometime and watch his behavior and the behavior of others around him? Is probalby just a phase, heartbreaking I know. When you take him in, sit down and play with him and the other children for a minute, don't just drop him off and leave. I t could help seeing you interact with the others. How long is he destressed after you leave?Talk to the sitter about all of this. Good Luck
2007-03-21 06:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Denise H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? A child can be comfortable in a particular setting and then suddenly go through a phase of separation anxiety. Sometimes they may go through it again at a later time. Some may go through it at about 9 months or may at 18 months. Though this can vary widely per child. My son is 4 and sometimes wants to cling to me.
It could just be separation anxiety or maybe something is wrong with the sitter. Another possibility is that he is now only going 3 days a week. For some children it is hard to go back on Mondays or after a vacation. Maybe the reduction of days might be affecting him since he has had more days of being with his Mommy.
It may help to let him take a "lovey" with him or maybe go in with him a play with him and the other kids. If he is old enough talk with him about his day and his friends. Try to talk positively. If he senses nervousness from you it will make him so.
2007-03-21 07:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tersie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does it mean to say "just separation anxiety?" Separation anxiety is a serious problem because kids are terrified that mom is not coming back and their brain is flooding with a hormone cortisol with impairs learning and causes anxiety and depression and hurts the ability to cope with stress - even as an adult!
now, if he's just now 8 or 9 months old, he would have just entered the stage where he's aware you and he are separate people and while he would have once felt bewildered by your appearance in and out of the scene, he would now be realizing what is going on and feel very threatened and afraid.
If he has not been with this sitter since early infancy and is now just at 8/9 months, then there is a problem with the sitter or someone there.
btw, more than 10 hours a week separation from mom is devastating to kids under 3 - 5 years of age. social problems, intellectual problems, physical problems, and emotional problems, including bonding difficulties is the harvest reaped by too early separation.
2007-03-21 06:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should make sure that nothing strange is happening with the sitter. Do you know of any incidents that might have happened that could possibly upset your son?
After you make sure that nothing is wrong, you should make his stay with the sitter memorable. For example, you should let him take one of his favorite toys or get him an exciting new toy or new thing to do with the sitter (i.e. legos, coloring books).
Or you could also let him know that if he goes calmly with the sitter you and him are to do something special during the weekend (i.e. go eat at a place he enjoys, go to the zoo, or to the park).
Success!
2007-03-21 06:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The common age for seperation anxiety is about eighteen months until two-and-a-half, but children can experience it at any age. It is common for children to experience seperation anxiety from their siblings...this is the strongest seperation anxiety that my son sees...and we are dealing with this right now at the age of 4 1/2. Has anything changed at the sitters? I would ask her. It may be that him going only three days a week makes it harder for him because he has more time with you...which is the most precious time....and this makes him want to be with you more.
2007-03-21 07:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter he actually likes.
2007-03-21 06:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Winette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are very good at manipulating their mommies. And this is probably what he's doing. Don't tell him where you're going...he already knows. Does he cry all day? Probably not. My daughter did the same thing. He's probably playing on your guilt...but take it as a compliment. He loves you!
2007-03-21 09:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds very ordinary. at this age maximum toddlers commence mendacity to get what they choose. definite, this might have got here approximately, besides the shown fact that it would have been an twist of destiny, and he could be blowing it way out of share. communicate on your childcare service, and don't carry decrease back. if it sort of looks like she is retaining decrease back or mendacity approximately something, commence finding for sparkling childcare for him. you like him to be satisfied if he must be there universal, so locate someplace that he would be satisfied in. ask him why he needs to circulate to artwork with you and not visit daycare. if he's extreme and what he's asserting is genuine, then you certainly ought to tell your vendors licenser. this could be the female that's on the certificates proving that she is authorized to be a childcare service, which ought to be stunning on the wall in the area that the toddlers play in. your vendors licenser needs to understand what your son is asserting. it is relatively for the risk-free practices of your baby, and the different toddlers on the daycare. sturdy success, and that i extremely desire your son is advantageous. I extremely have grown up with my mom and step mom having domicile day-cares, and that's extremely difficult. I extremely have seen little ones pop out of terrible day-cares, and there mom and father could no longer tell that there grow to be something incorrect until eventually the toddlers started crying for the period of drop off time. you ought to ascertain you're no longer prolonging the goodbyes. stroll in, sign him in, kiss hug and leave. you staying there whilst he's crying is barely making it worse and extra sturdy for him. verify he's risk-free and satisfied, and you ought to be advantageous.
2016-10-02 12:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by ulberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋