Should I tell his friends that I know his secret?

Question

this guy i was seeing for 8 months we both work on the marine base and he told me that he's single and has no kids i believed him all this time i've been to his house i've spent the night a few times i'm able to call him anytime it's hard to see him because of his job (marine drill instructor) i even had a phone call from this girl saying that she has kids with him and that she's married to him but when i asked her to prove it she backed out and said "oh no it's ok u can date him i hope u two have a good relationship together" she said this to me twice over the phone so when he said that she was lying i believed him because of the way she was acting. last weekend i saw him get in a car with the girl and later that day i seen her walking with two kids like she said and she was also pregnant. i felt really bad because when she was telling me i had an attitude with her because everyone else that knows him said that she was a trouble maker and that she lies to stop girls from dating him

he introduced me to his friends that he knew for years and his family.....so i believed him with everything he said...some of his friends say that he does have kids and some don't ...could he be going through a divorce?

His friends asked me to go to there house after work...should i tell them what i saw?

Answer 1

Shoot, you are not going to get a straight answer from him. I would certainly approach him and give him the opportunity to tell the truth and make it clear to him that under no uncertain circumstances do you want to be involved with him. Whose baby is this woman carrying? Likely that it is his....While you had an attitude with this girl, you had no that your guy was married or even if divorced, why lie about the kids?

Answer 2

Sounds like you got involved with a lying wack job, and the other woman is just as wacky for staying with him. I would run the other way fast. Anybody that lies to you, on any level is not a good person. I'm sorry, but start believing that you deserve better than some scum who lives in lies and bullshit. Raise the bar higher for yourself.

Answer 3

Its really hard to know if he is going through a divorce, but if the woman is pregnant, do you really think he is getting a divorce? I think you should talk to the woman that called you, and let her tell you the truth. Or, if you dont want to talk to her, you should find out some other way you can, if he really is married. Either way, you should find out soon, so that you can know what to do next.

Answer 4

This is a hard situation to be in, but your best bet would be....If you're not severely emotionally involved, get out of it! Who wants to wonder about the person they're seeing?!?! Sucks! And all the freakin drama! And I know it would make me feel like an idiot being in the middle of it and being naive and people knowing the truth but not telling you and sitting back while laughing at how naive you're being. No offense, that's just how I would feel! Good Luck to you tho!

Answer 5

Either continue your relationship with him and take him at his word or break it off because he's a liar. That's as far as you need to go into this little gossip hut. Don't stick your nose where its not wanted, and doesn't belong

BTW: His friends already know. A man's friends are closer to him than his own genitals. They know everything about him and some things that would probably shock you if you knew.

Answer 6

The whole thing sounds questionable. Rather than taking the time to find out, I would say it would be better to move on.

It does not sound like just that girl is talking about him having a wife and children. He must have spoken to some of his friends about having children or they would think he does.

I say get away from him.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 7

the subject approximately secrets and techniques is that normally you won't be in a position to maintain them. I had a chum while i became your age who started reducing herself and acknowledged suicide. She asked me to no longer say something by way of fact she became frightened of what would ensue while adults found out. at last yet another buddy broke down and instructed and she or he have been given help even with the undeniable fact that it scares me on a daily basis to think of of what would have got here approximately. I even have yet another buddy who's secret i did no longer tell...and he ended up attempting to kill himself...fortunatly he did no longer be useful. If I had instructed in keeping with risk he would not have been waiting to objective. the subject you could remember is what the outcomes of no longer telling would be. If the result's them hurting themself or hurting somebody else in the long-term that's extra appropriate to tell. From my attitude it could be the version between conserving your buddy happy with you yet allowing them to go through or doubtlessly having them get mad yet be secure.

Answer 8

what should you do?? run !!! run as fast as you can! don't look back . don't feel guilty you did nothing wrong unless you stay with him knowing he has a girlfriend with kids ! does it matter if they are his or not? you don't need to be bothered with all his problems and if you wish to date him later then fine but he needs to get his business straightened out before you go trying to be part of his life. sounds like he has enough people in his life right now .
hope this all works out for you

Answer 9

RUN!!!!! This guy sounds like trouble. There are plenty of Single guys out there looking for a relationship, to be tied to someone who doesn't know what he wants.

Answer 10

You never know I really like a guy named Jack.... He has a kid but his wife passed away. I really wanna ask him on a date but i cnat step up. Anyways this guy sounds like he just wants you as a booty call sit him down and talk to him.