2007-03-21 06:06:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know how you feel, i broke up my fat liar one yesterday,
i have one tissue for my eyes and one for my nose, and the one for my nose gets wet the most first.
2007-03-21 06:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it's a bereavement, and people say that you should allow a month for every year that you're together. That only works, however, if the person you're crying about is actually gone - if they are still around you, and perhaps with someone else, then each time you see them it brings it all back.
My advice to you is to get together all your girlfriends and ask them to take you on a night out, a really good one. Get dressed up, even if you don't feel like it, get them round your house to make you up, do your hair, select your clothes, have a glass of wine. Get some real kinship with your friends and then go out - not on the pull for another guy - but just to enjoy what it's like to be surrounded by good mates who are totally on your side, think you're wonderful, and think that your ex-b/f is a complete jerk for losing someone as utterly brilliant as you.
Believe me that works. Do it a few times to boost your confidence and you'll soon be smiling again.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 13:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about you feeling so sad, just shows what abig heart you have. To be honest there is no exact time, as it depends on what type of relationship you had and why you broke up. You will start to feel ok when you realise that you can be happy without him...you've got a good heart and he has lost out on being with someone like you, first step is to look to the future, you have value as an individual, stop depriving people of the joy of being around a happy YOU [:-)
2007-03-21 13:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by anthony m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyway can give you a simple answer on when.. it will take time. Each person is different. It might be in the next couple of days or it may take months. Use this time for yourself. Get a makeover.. have a girls night.. spend time with friends and remember to find a close friend and talk about it. Keeping it inside will only make it worse for you.
Good luck
2007-03-21 13:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. I wish I could tell you that there is some way you can make it hurt less, but it takes time. 3 and a half years is a long time to be with someone, and you wont get over it immediately. You have to give yourself time to be upset, angry, p!ssed off and whatever else. It does get easier gradually. When you start to feel a bit better, go out with your mates and have a good night out.
2007-03-21 13:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does take time... The two things that worked for me was cutting off all contact (otherwise, it just breeds hope... and jealousy and 10,000 other emotions everytime you get a text/see him)
AND (typical) GET BUSY! I know you probably dont want to see anyone/go out etc but if you're going to sit in, do it with friends. Watch a comedy- even better, GO to a comedy club!
Get out and do stuff AND keep busy!
Good luck!
2007-03-21 13:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by spagbolfordinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i'd have to agree with about 2 months. Try taking your mind off things you did and make plans to do different things. Plan ahead. Trips, visits to places of interest. You will then have your mind on planning for things in the future instead of reflecting on the past.
2007-03-21 13:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by paul_vickery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll be about another month or 2 usally it's about 1-2 months for every year your together is the average according to polls
but really it's up to the person you need to forget about him and look to the future
2007-03-21 13:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a great healer. When my girlfriend left me i thought i would never get over it. It didn't matter what any one said to me. The only thing that healed my broken heart was time, it takes time
2007-03-21 13:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bertie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just broke with a chick i was seeing for 8 years, its going to take some time, your mind soul and body are healing itself now. is the relationship impossible to mend?
2007-03-21 13:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by marion r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hard on yourself - you need time to grieve. Take one day at a time, one morning, not too far from now you will wake up feeling a bit better.
Take care. XXX.
2007-03-21 13:55:28 · answer #11 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋