i been with him a year and a half,
and found his sleeping with some other girl. for about 3 months, the girl thinks im his ex. and in the txt she says she loves him
even when i found out he is STILL trying to lie.
what is wrong with him, i never met anyone who lies so much,
and i cannot eat.
2007-03-21 06:02:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men suck monkey butts.
It's hard to get over a guy, no matter what he is like! You are just going to let time deal with it! Break ALL contact with him, not text messages, no emails, no phone calls... NO NOTHING!
First thing is first.. rent some "boohoo movies", grab calorie fillled food and a box of tissues and cry it out!! Then, get all pretty and hit the town with your girlfriends.
Flirt, have fun, even try to get some numbers from other guys! You never have to call them. Just see what else is out there... You'll be fine after some time, darling.
Best of luck.
2007-03-21 06:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hate men (and women of course) that do this. It makes me so angry. I actually want to scream at him for you! The same thing happened to me with my ex. I'd been seeing him for 6 months, then he cheated. I took him back, then he started getting cosy with another girl and yes... he'd told her that I was his ex! The lesson: if he's lying to her and cheating on you, he can't be trusted ever again. This is very different to a one-off or a mistake. This is something that cannot be forgiven.
Sometimes, people get into a situation where they lead a kind of double life. He's probably lied so much to you and this girl that he started believing it himself! The weakest, most cowardly, despicable man is one who lies - even when they've been found out! This was the case with my ex too.
Please don't ever get back with him. You would never be able to trust him. He would do it again, he seems to be that type. Try to let go of your questions such as 'what is wrong with him?' - you're a decent person and because of this you'll never be able to understand what makes another person be so horrible and decietful.
If you happen to have this girl's contact information, let her know what the score is. Then get the hell away from him. Trust me, he'll get what he deserves and so will you. I felt awful, just like you do now, when I found out about my ex. But you know what? 3 years on, I've got a new boyfriend who i've been with for 2.5 years, I've got loads of friends and I'm a happy, honest person. My ex? He's unemployed, has a girlfriend he wants to cheat on again, and nobody likes him because is he such a liar. You're a better person than he'll ever be - hold your head up and move on. It's hard at first, but trust me, if you cut all ties with him and ignore his calls forever, you'll feel so empowered. Don't let yourself be a victim - he's the loser, not you.
xx Emmie
2007-03-21 06:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take you the length of time to find a pair of rusty scissors and chop his manhood into little pieces :P
Actually, it does depend on how much you cared about him in the first place. If you cared about him enough, it wouldn't take you long, but if you would walk the ends of the earth for him, die for him even, then it may take some time. There is no specific time scale, only you know when you've got over him.
It goes quicker if you find someone else to help you get over it. A friend, family member, drinking partner. And if it is the latter that you decide to choose, I'm available :D
2007-03-21 06:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by HiFi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its takes a long time...
but the thing is not to get over him I know ur going to hurt and its part of the process.
Try to benefit rather then looking as if it was a downfall in your life. Learn from the mistakes u both made and LOVE your self and know that you are better then that and the only person that lost was him, you don't need that kind of stress in ur life you never know when its going to be ur last day so enjoy and have fun now its time to go out and mingle get ur mind of things even if its not satisfying.
Good luck, keep ur head up and be strong this is only a lil bump u must learn to be better for the next person!
2007-03-21 06:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by snap242 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation happened to me exactly! The good thing for me (which I didn't think at the time) is that when I found out about the cheating and lying I hardly ever saw him again and it made it easier to get him out of my mind. It took me a good year to get the git out of my system I was a wreck and I couldn't eat either! Not for 2 whole weeks to start with! Try and do something that takes your mind off him get with your girly mates thats what I did, and now I have a better boyfriend who I maybe wouldn't have met if I was still with my horrible boyfriend. I'm sorry its happened to you alot of men are real losers. Good Luck :)
2007-03-21 06:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by agent flora 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep yourself busy.....if he's denying u to be with someone else then he's not worth it to be thinking about just stay away from him it will be hard but start talking to other guys he wil relaize his mistake and maybe he'll change if not just move on. i had the same problem with this guy for 8 months he didn't tell me about his kids or his "wife" i still don't know if the wife thing is true but i know he has kids with the girl and it's was crazy how i found out we work on the same marine base and the girl was on the base walking around with the kids it was really sad. just be careful some guys could lie really good and at the end the girl gets hurt.
2007-03-21 06:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people at some time will experience something similar.It's not easy at the time but eventually we do get over the scum bags. Be thankful you have not wasted too much of your time on this compulsive liar.Whoever he meets he will treat with the same disrespect, feel sorry for his next victim. Look after yourself build yourself up meet new people.Have fun, life is too short to be wasted on losers.
2007-03-21 12:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, it will take you 4.5 months to get over a 1.5 year relationship but because of the extremely hurtful way your boyfriend has treated you I would say you should add another 1 month to this ratio.
So 5.5 months if you are someone of normally sound mind and not insecure.
2007-03-21 06:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does get easier,i was withmy ex and father of my child for 6 years and he left us for the 2nd time just after new year,i was devatated and heart broken and like you couldn`t eat and couldn`t sleep but i now feel so much better,i`m still abit hurt and angry with him for lying to me but i feel better not having to wonder where he is and what`s he doing and who he`s doing it with.
Just don`t sit about moping,thats the mistake i made first time round but this time i`m just getting on with it and go out with friends reguarly and if i feel a bit down i do something to keep myself busy like tidy out a cupboard-anything!
Time does really heal!
2007-03-21 06:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by onlyme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, start eating, a lying boyfriend doesn't deserve starving to death for him. Second: think about this, he cheated, he lied. do you love a cheating lying guy? you don't. i;m sure you can enumerate some other faults too, so let it out. are you angry at him? be very very angry at him, and let this out too. don't do anything foolish of course, but stop hurting yourself. this guy wasn't for you, and there will be some, who will deserve you, and you'll have the time of your life.
forgetting doesn't take long, if you know how to handle this. he wasn't for you, this love wasn't meant to be.
2007-03-21 07:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋