okay my mom is mad at my younger sister who is 17 yrs old because she is planning to move out after her high school graduation... ya that is a mistake but you know how teenager are and how they want to move out after school... well my mom is really mad about that... and she grounded my sister till whem my mom thinks she doesnt need to be grounded anymore... she took her vell phone away but than gave it back... and she isnt talk in to her.. plus my mom said she is dead to her its really krazy and im in the middle of it and i dont know what to do... i mean my mom always puts me in it even when i tell her not to do it... now my mom has this baby monaitor... and is listening to her talk in her room... now she is sayin she can get our cell phone conversations recorded and get all the conversations we had this past year??? is that true? can u really get outr conversations from t-mobile??? someone please answer and give me advice on what to do??? PLEASE HELP I HAVE HAD ALOT OF HEADACHS
2007-03-21 05:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by Chitownshottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well my sister has been wanting to move out since forever... her and my mom never really got along... they always aruge... i mean i agrue with my mom but i never walk away mad at her you know... my mom always knew my sister would wanna move out.. my sister is gunna be 18 in april and graduate in june.. she is suppose gunna live w/ her bf i tell my sister she is too young and thats a bad idea but i know she needs to learn on her own... i know my mom is mad because she doesnt want ne of us to leave and i wont leave because she is payin for me to go to school... so idk how i could leave pay for school and pay rent u know? but my mom isnt gunna wanna talk she just keeps sayin she will get my sister back and stuff.. my mom has always been strick .. something i get mad about but i adjusted to it.. so idk i wish i knew the answer... but i dont
2007-03-21 06:06:56 · update #1
No, she cannot get your cell phone conversations from T-Mobile. That's insane.
2007-03-21 05:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that there is a huge communication error going on. Since you are in the middle you may as well mediate the conflict.
First find out what the actual situation is. Do not get emotional, just the facts. Why is your mother mad at your sister? The real reason, not just a tiny bit that got overheard from the next room. Why is your sister mad at your mom? Find out the real reasons.
After you have both sides of the story, ask questions about what it would take to remedy the situation. Then make suggestions to each individually. After each has come to an agreement with you, have them get together and meet with you there. For family strife I always serve ice cream, and toppings. Have the family meeting and start by saying a few "rules of conduct"
No yelling, no insults, and no physical violence. Then proceed to serve the ice cream asking what topping while also asking what solution they would agree to.
A story I heard a few years ago; Two sisters were fighting over an orange. So the parent cut the orange in half and gave one to each sister. One sister had wanted to make juice and so squeezed it dry and threw away the rest. The other had wanted to make a cake and so squeezed the juice down the drain. Had they been able to discuss the details the orange would have been fully used and each sister would have gotten more.
So find out the missing pieces and help them solve the problem.
Also FYI cell phone companies do not record phone calls. They can retrieve voice mail and text messages, but not a normal phone call.
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2007-03-21 06:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom has some growing up to do as well. It is sad that you are having to handle some of this. But try to see if from your mom's viewpoint. She has raised your sister for 17 years. It's not something you just give up lightly overnight. It hurts when they grow up and move away. She's angry, and will be hurt and it will take some time. Please try to understand how that might feel. Be respectful of your mom. I don't agree with the things she has done, but it's done now and they is no taking that stuff back. Your mom needs to sit back and take a deep breathe and think before acting out of anger and hurt. All you can really do is be there for your mom. Give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Hugs to you too kiddo!
2007-03-21 05:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,Mom just tryin to scare you.But she can get your phone records from t-mobile but let your mom know that you do not want to be the middle man in the fight.Tell if she needs someone to talk too you will alway be there for her but tell her that is something she will have to work out on her own.Your mom might be scared that she is movin on with her life and don't want her to move out until she is 18 yrs old.But just tell mom to chill out some people have to learn from there own mistakes.
2007-03-21 05:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by SingerTooHot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first she can't get the cell phone conversations from the phone, second once your sister turns 18 she legally an adult and can make her own decisions....but if you keep telling her no, shes going to start to just do it out of spite if she isn't already....you mom should encourage her, and teach her the best she can on how to survive in the real world, like how to save her money and work hard and keep jobs.... but the goal of raising children is so that one day the will be ready to move out right?? if she has problems which she will, she'll come home...you mom is pushing her away more and more with what she is doing...taking her cell phone and all that...once she moves out legally she can get her own place and own cell phone...but she will struggle and its a good lesson everyone learns when they move out....i moved out at 18 and struggled, but got threw it and now i'm 23 and am glad that i am responsible and am able to enjoy the time i have with my family and can treat them all to dinner....i was just like your sister and didn't get along with my mom too....now i work with her....it will all work out, but you need to step out of it and put your foot down to your mother....you seem to be old enough to do that...
2007-03-21 07:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by monetbaker22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I've never heard of being able to do that with a cell phone. I don't think it can be, really. It sounds like it's time for you to sit and talk with your mom about what's really going on. Maybe something's wrong and you guys don't even know about it. I'm curious why she would want to record conversations that have already taken place??? But listening to someone else's conversations etc is an invasion of privacy. Period.
2007-03-21 05:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom needs to get a life. SHe can not record cell phone calls. Parents who feel the need to control their children are insecure about their importance in their children's lives. I have four children and while I don't always agree with their choices, making all their choices for them is disrespectful to them. Children do not owe their parents their lives. I say stick to your guns, move out on your own and make your relationship with your mother on your terms or 10 years from now she will be telling you and your sister who you can marry and how to raise your children. Not cool.
2007-03-21 05:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by kate_the_bratt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does your sister have plans... Like where is she going to live when she moves out and what is she going to do for a living. If i was your mom i would test her let her be out on her own. I think children these day don't realize how hard it is to be on your own and they end up moving back with there parents. So just tell your mom to breath and let her be on her own..
2007-03-21 05:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is in need of counciling. What is so wrong with your sister wanting to be an adult? Some people want to leach off their parents forever. If I were you sister and my mom was doing these things to me, I would want to get out as fast as possible too. At least your sister is trying to be mature and wait until she graduates instead of running away now.
2007-03-21 05:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sardo Numspa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is only looking out for your sister's best interest.Get out of the middle.seventeen is pretty young to move out unless you have a job.In order to get an apartment she will need someone to cosign the lease.Obviously your sister has done something to make your mom distrust her.
2007-03-21 05:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your sister, and ask her why she is being rude to your mom. Or why she wants to move out.
Hasn't she hurt your mother enough? As for arguing, with her forget it. Your mom, will stand her ground.
2007-03-21 05:47:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋