Can a guy love you and miss you while he is at college for the year and not call until the Spring?

Question

What is this? A guy that I had known since I was a kid had sex with me several times after I was 18yrs old and then he went back to college. He told me he would be back and he was the next Spring. However, he did not leave a phone number when he called and I was kind of hurt and did not feel that I should have to chase him down. Five years later, he called my house and asked me out when I was married - my husband got mad and I told him not to call. Well, we divorced and I later remarried. I did not call the guy because I felt I had been used. I have recently ran into him and he told me that he always loved me and he had gotten busy at school and that is why he did not call. He said that he did have some girls at school he had sex with but they did not mean anything. He has a common law wife and wants to talk to me everyday. He apologized for not just coming and getting me years ago. I don't understand this guy. I want to believe but something says I should not.

Now keep in mind that whole year he was a college he called one time I answered and he had ran out of gas down the road and asked me to help him and my mother had my car and I could not leave. He told me don't worry about it and told me good bye and never even told me he missed me or anything. It was such a cold call that I did not tell him I missed him. He says that happened because he was shy and did not know how I felt but he loved me.

He is 47 now and was 24 when we had sex. I was 18 at the time. In our conversations he tries to put the blame on me for us not getting together. He says when he came back I was gone and he could not find me. I don't think that he tried to hard. He even brings up the fact that I did not call him after my divorce - to be honest I was kind of gun shy of him and I still am.

Answer 1

Follow your instincts, your right. This guy is definetly questionable. How old is he for one? Espacially when he first had sex with you? Another thing is that it sounds like your older and more mature now so realize if he doesn't work for it, he defently doesn't deserve it. Tell him he had plenty of chances to warm the relationship up, plenty of opurtinituities to just talk to you and develop a relationship that wasn't based soly on physcial contact, and he failed. Of course you don't because even if its true, he failed himself over and over agian. Looks like your having enough problems as it is, don't add this one.