I have been dating my girlfriend for the past 3 years. We met on a Dating site as friends and it has blossomed to be a great relationship. However we've been having issues for the past year and is now going through a rough patch. Doing some heavy digging one day i realized that she still has her Dating page and has been conversing with one particualr gentlemen back and forth.I have been monitoring her conversations and she s behaving as if she s single and is showing great interest in this guy. Since I have been snooping into her personal E-mail, How do I confront her about her behavior without saying I have been watching her emails.
I am extremely hurt as I'm doing my best to sustain the relationship. I see it as emotional Cheating. My number one issues has been trusting women, How do i move on, How can i Trust her moving forward?
2007-03-21 05:36:10 · 8 answers · asked by MR G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ask her, what she wants from the relationship... if she feels is progressing between the two of you and why she feels that way. Tell her to be honest, that you want to know where you guys stand if she says everything is great you know she's lying just leave her; if she says that has issues ask her to be honest and tell you what are those issues... if she's honest and you still want to be with her that's your choice.
Best of luck
2007-03-21 05:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by lysa24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My number one issues has been trusting women," Man...you can't say that when you're sitting there snooping in her email. Sorta the pot calling the ketle black.
BUT....since you are keen to this, I'd start looking for a place to live and make plans to move on. Once a man/woman gets to the point where they are getting "emotionaly" involved with someone else, it takes A LOT to get things back on track. If you've been having issues for a year, there are serious issues in the relationship that obviously are not being addressed. I'd confront her, say she left the computer on one day or walk up on her while she's on the site. Get it out in the open but be prepared to move on.
2007-03-21 05:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by A.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...that is tough, just because you did invade her privacy. I would say just do it in a round about way. Ask her if she still cares for you as much as she always has. Or ask if she is still serious about you and about your relationship. See what she says and how she answers the questions. And then I'd say go from there. However, I do think that some women just enjoy attention, even if that comes from another person, so maybe she has no intention of pursuing this online "fling" thing with this guy, she just enjoys the attention he is giving her. Good luck!!! hope everything works out for the best!!!
2007-03-21 05:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by girlygirl83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't admitt anything that will give her reason to leave, just talk with her about your feeling and let her know how much your starting to care and how she feels about you if she feels the same. If so ask her if she still has her site up tell her you took your off and you were wondering, if she fesses up then ask her if she will remove it, if she does not remove it or lies then get into her site and send the guy a hate message and block him from contacting her and dump her not being able to trust someone will always lead to problems.
2007-03-21 05:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by big 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should just confront her abuot it. I know it's not nice to have a boyfriend snooping around but well, what she's doing is not nice either! So just ask her..
2007-03-21 05:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Freakazoid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats rough dude, id say you have to let her have her privacy but she is cheating and you should confront her. but otherwise you have to be able to trust any girlfriend you have...no matter what youve experienced in the past...trust is the magic ingredient
2007-03-21 05:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by ahen411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta come clean tell her you have trust issues then take it from there :) don't try to make monitoring her emails a small issue becouse she's gonna freak :(
good luck
2007-03-21 05:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it
2007-03-21 05:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋