Im so confused right now! saturday night my boyfriend & I got into a fight. It was over something ridiculous & then the next day we made up. We usually see eachother everyday but since saturday we havent even really hung out. He keeps sending me mixed signals. He says he'll call and doesnt. then he said he wanted space, so i gave it to him. Yesterday he said he wanted to go to lunch but i couldn't make it in time so i ended up going to his house for about 10 minutes so he could help me with directions to a place i had 2 go. when i was there he acted like everything was fine.. lovable & his sweet self! :) I asked if we were "ok" and he said yes.. I left & I said I'd call him later but he ended up calling me. we were happy to hear from eachother & talked about hangin out later that night when he was out of school at 730.. BUT he never called? I called him but he still never called me back? I'm confused. we've been 2gether 9months. whats going on? how do i win him back :( HELP
2007-03-21 05:17:39 · 23 answers · asked by BeachGrl1985 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for your imput so far.. I thought I'd add some more...
-we're still together- he told me yesterday
-he never left me.. he just didn't call (the plans were'nt in stone)
2007-03-21 05:25:49 · update #1
-I've tried talking to him before.. plenty of times.. he always says he's sorry and he understands where I'm coming from.. I know he's being sincere because he's never "out to get someone" so if he's sorry.. wtf.. why doesn't he stop
2007-03-21 05:27:28 · update #2
I texted him good morning already.. do I just let him call me.. and if he does.. do i answer? I don't want to play games with him.. I have my own stuff going on today.. so thank goodness I won't be dwelling...
2007-03-21 05:31:27 · update #3
dont worry if u r boy is looking for a change he will not come back
n will make lame excuses to get rid of u
n no ned to win him back
if he loves u he will come back
all u have to do is act normal like u n show him that u care and love him a lot
n se
if he wants to come back he will otherwise
its over
2007-03-21 06:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by PUNJABI ROCKS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are not communicating clearly. You need to tell him he is sending mixed signals to you. He may simply have a lot on his plate right now and not realize what he's doing. Then again, other issues may be under the surface.
Keep it simple and light. Just tell him you care about him and want to make sure that he is alright because he has been sending mixed signals lately. Don't go in assuming he's cheating or anything crazy like that. Assume the best and treat him with respect and you guys will be fine.
Best of luck!
2007-03-21 12:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Justyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where alot of females make mistake but youve caught the problem early so you might be able to fix it. First, you can't win somebody over people like what they like and the more you pull the more he will push. You need to give him his space, as a matter of a fact you need some space. You two need to be reminded that you are still seperate people with you own lives. Give him some time to miss you. Go to the movies by yourself. Do this for one week, and things will change. Then again nothing lasts forever it might be time to move on.
2007-03-21 12:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that even though you both made up, there was still unresolved issues and anger that led to the fight. Think back on what you both fought about and how and who made up first, what was said? He might be holding a grudge of some sort. Maybe you thought the fight was about something ridiculous, when in fact what ever it was made some kind of impact on him, in what way is not clear to me. I would say you have some serious thinking to do and it would be good to talk out the issues with him. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-21 12:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off how old are you? Under 25 girl give up. He's maybe starting to see the other side of the fence. Your young enjoy your life and boys shouldn't be your first priority. Live a little and go out and find people that aren't gonna play head games with you. And please don't be a ****** and fall into playing any on him. When it's over it's over. You'll get over it. If it's meant to be it will be. Later when your life is ready to be so serious.
2007-03-21 12:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by purple toes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell did you fight over? Listen, if your nine month relationship can't stand up to one little bump in the road then jump off that ship before you go down with it. Do not focus on calling him or "winning him back" because guys want what they cant have, I know, I am one. So..... just be distant, and one of two things will happen, he will break up with you..... or you should him. OR he will come right back to you and then you can go back to being bff or what the hell else you kids call it these days.
2007-03-21 12:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by god_of_new 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. You obviously are really young and this stuff is crazy at any age. Also, chasing the guy sometimes empoweres him and stuff so you may just pull back a little. Nothing like abscene to make you want someone more.
2007-03-21 12:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Trojan8408 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it sounds like you are in a difficult situation, maybe he has lost that spark or maybe there is another someone on the side... thats for you to find out. But i would give him his space, if he really likes you he will come crawling back to you because he will become jealous of not having you....
maybe go out with girl friends, flirt with other guys... etc.
2007-03-21 12:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Terry and Deaner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ball is in his court right now. Sit back, relax and see how things are going to pan out. He told you he wanted a little space, give it to him. Right now all you are doing is hounding him and making him feel like you are too possessive.
2007-03-21 12:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him more space and do your own thing for a while. Don't try so hard to get together. When and if he wants to do more things together he will let you know. Always dress and look sexy and act sexy when you are around him.
2007-03-21 12:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋