Been with her for 4 years.....started cursing the last year or so...she's always been so polite but I think its the people at the college we go to thats having a bad influence....It's the biggest turnoff ever because I myself don't curse.
Anyway, how do I get her to stop? Whats a nice way to put it? Every 2 seconds it's a F bomb or the S bomb
2007-03-21 05:12:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She may not realize just how nasty she sounds, or how often she's doing it. Perhaps keep some sort of tally, adding a mark every time you hear her curse. Then show it to her at the end of the day or week. Or tape/video record her in action, and show her later. That's a real eye opener. (Let he know you're doing this beforehand of course) Good luck!
2007-03-21 05:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start off by asking her not to curse. There really isn't any other way to say it. Tell her that you don't like it and you would prefer she didn't do it. I can tell you right now she's probably going to give you an attitude about it. Personally, I'm the same way, I curse a lot and I really DO NOT like people telling me that I shouldn't. If you don't want to hear it, you don't have to be around me and you can just roll out. I'm a grown a** man and no one on this earth will dictate to me how I am to communicate. I do, however, believe there is a time and place for speaking a certain way, but I feel I'm intellegent enough to make that determination on my own. That's my opinion and I use myself as the example, it may be different with your gf. If you ask me, and apparantly you did, I would say you're just going to have to deal with it or be on your way. If you are college aged, it's a good bet that it might not change. A person begins to develop their adult personality around age 20-22, when they are exposed to more people who are their age or older. So she may be growning out of a restricting environment and deciding how she wants to interact with her peers. You shouldn't have anything much to say about it, if she want to do it, she's going to whether you like it or not. If it makes you feel all that uncomfortable, and you're going to make such a big deal out of it, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. I don't see anything wrong with it, though.
2007-03-21 12:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No other way then to just tell her (politely!) that you don't care much for the foul langauge. Make sure you do this gently otherwise she might think that you are trying to control her.
It's never attractive when a young woman curses, but we all do it sometimes (usually when something really hurts us). If she blows up at you and disrespects you for telling her how you feel, you both have probably just grown apart over the time and you need to call it quits or take a break.
2007-03-21 12:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her that she is changing an the cursing that she does is really not cause for. Why do she curse whats explanation for cursing try to find a way that not mean but telling the truth. If you don't curse and she hasn't curse for 3years since y'all been together why start now.
2007-03-21 12:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the man that you are and give her an ultimatum, it's either the cursing or you. I feel as you do, it's a huge turn off and I won't stand for it. Let her know how you feel about it and how less attracted you are becoming by her cursing.
2007-03-21 12:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew - it's my biggest pet peave with my husband because he's the same way.
I think you're right about the infulences. I don't cuss very often, but the more I have to listen to it, the more often I catch myself using a word or getting ready to.
I tell my husband that it hurts me every time he uses one because I feel like he is disrespecting my wishes and doesn't care how I feel.
You can try that - but they have to be willing to change. My best advice, pray her her!
2007-03-21 12:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, she probably picked up the habit by other people, and I agree with you, it is a turn off. Just let her know how you feel. There is no polite way to put it. She may not even have been aware of how much she does it.
2007-03-21 12:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight up that she needs to stop cursing its going to be hard for her to stop but its your hard 2 help her stop but thats only if she wants to stop. If she dont want to stop then well there is nothing you can do but u do need 2 tell her that you dont like her cursing and that she needs to watch her mouth around you
2007-03-21 12:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by ericjarrellwilliamsjohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend says the same about me. It's usually because you are feeling overwhelmed and it's a way to let out steam. Maybe she needs to relax. Does she have a lot of stress in her life? Talk to her about it. Or it could be just a phase. You should just ignore it. The less attention you pay to it. The less likely she will do it because she will see that it doesn't make you react.
2007-03-21 12:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by New2AZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! unlike all my guy friends your the first guy I know who is not turned on by a dirty mouth. I can see where it is not attractive and lady like. I think you should be straight forward and tell her whats on your mind because its been 4 years. If you cant tell her straight up, there are harder decisions to make down the road.
2007-03-21 12:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋