I know what i want and i like it. I know what to give and he likes it. So how come i cant just speak it?
2007-03-21 05:10:43 · 22 answers · asked by lilsurferchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now is not the time to be shy. Go for it, Tell him all your fantacies, curiosities. You are a winner here girlie, I say tell him what he wants to hear, then lay back and enjoy...
2007-03-21 05:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and I are in the same boat. I have this problem too. I think that i am shy about voicing it, no idea why. I think what it all boils down to is that I am a little intimidated by him because he's older and has had way more partners than I have, maybe you are that way too. Maybe if you are in a new relationship, you are shy around him. In past relationships I didn't really have to explain, he just did it and knew what I liked. But one thing is for sure, you will only become sexually frustrated with him if you do not tell him. You can take small steps, like saying yes or no and then move on to bigger phrases. Maybe you can even show him how to do something with out even talking at all. Sounds totally silly, I know. You can have deep conversations with the man, but when it comes to voicing what you want in the bedroom you cant. Try that out. I know for me that it was just a matter of feeling more and more comfortable with him the more we did it. Good luck , hope that helps some.
2007-03-21 12:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him without coming out and saying it. When you are in bed push him in the direction of what you are wanting. Then if he does something you really like make it very well known at that specific time. He will catch on. Or if you feel comfortable tell him what you want him to do in the heat of the moment. That works real well for me and my man. He said the same thing to me but was to shy to talk about that with him so I found another way to tell him. Now life in that area is GREAT!!!
2007-03-21 12:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by qnbsdau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Borders book store and buy an instruction book with pictures and point out in the pictures what you like. You both should have fun looking at the pictures and having them in front of you should make it easy for you to talk about all of your hidden desires. Watching XXX movies together might also help you get into the talking mode. Maybe as you look at pictures or read the instructions you can get naked together and just practice some of the ideas that you have. Does this sound fun to you? I wish my wife would do this with me.
2007-03-21 12:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Havent your heard that hints dont work with us guys? That obvious hints dont work? That even hints with strategically placed clues dont even work?!?!?
The only way that you will be happy is that you put what you want in writting on a Legal format, overseen by legal advisor, notarized, published on a well know periodical and copy furnish your Man in triplicate.
THAT IS telling you man what you want
2007-03-21 12:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Juki009 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men need that extra guidance from lack of experience, this isn't necessarily a bad thing. Take out one night and teach him what you like and how you like it, and how he can tell when and how you like it. After that he should be able to take the driver's seat.
2007-03-21 12:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf is the same, she suddenly becomes shy when it comes to telling me what she wants me to do on any given day to get her off. I enjoy being told by her what to do in the bedroom but it's tough to coax her into telling me.
You don't have to, but it will make it much more enjoyable for your man and, therefore, hopefully for you.
2007-03-21 12:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by thingfishy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you whisper in his ear, and talk sexy to him about yours and his dislikes, and it will get him more excited, and possibly you will both become more direct with each other. It really could become a game between you too, who can talk the dirtiest, who can talk while nibbling each other's ear. The possibilities are endless.
2007-03-21 12:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Some things are just hard to say. Words like "analingus" are tricky to pronounce. Instead, just say "tongue my butt" or something to that effect.
2007-03-21 12:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by jeffprobst4242 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just nervous... practice in front of a mirror, like your going to give a performance or a speech to him. then when your ready, just do it! He would love to hear it im sure :)
2007-03-21 12:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋