SO I'm engaged to a great guy. He trusts me 100% but however, I can't seem to trust him, even though there's no reason not to. Every relationship I've been in before him has turned sour because of the man cheating on me. My fiance knows this and understands and he's waiting for me to trust him. How can I trust him completely and let him know that I do?
2007-03-21 05:06:56 · 12 answers · asked by sum4182girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let go of your past relationships. Your fiancee's willingness to prove to you that he will be faithful for the rest of his life by marrying you should be enough. He has faith in you, so you need to have faith in him. If you keep living in the past, it will dictate your future. Stop looking at the past and realize that you have the rest of your life to be happy with the love of your life.
2007-03-21 05:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you really need to get over if you want a health marriage. There isn't much you can do but have blind faith in him. Tell him to go out with the boys, go to vegas with the guys and don't grill him when he comes back. Learn to trust him or you will be sorry later.
A man that knows his wife doesn't trust him, might as well cheat.
2007-03-21 12:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not plan a marriage without trust. Continue with the relationship...time will build your trust. Trust is not a light switch. I advise you to wait on marriage, stay engaged if you wish...but, before going through with planning, and spending tons of money on a wedding, wait for the trust to be built.
2007-03-21 12:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like that takes time, but you should realize that he is not your ex. Just because you have had a bad experience doesn't mean that every man is the same. I had to learn this with my current boyfriend, and it is hard at times, but I have to remember, he's always with me and on the phone with me. Trust him...and he trusts me to the fullest, and I have flirted with men in his face, but he knows that's as far as it will go. Be honest with him and talk about this isssue with him. But, I don't think you have anything to worry about...it's mainly a woman thing with the trust issues.
2007-03-21 12:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by N0+ 3@$!Ly &R0]{3n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT WILL COME IN TIME I WOULD TRUST HIM TILL HE DID SOMETHING FOR YOU NOT TO TRUST HIM DON'T JUDGE HIM BE THE PAST LET THE PAST GO THIS IS SOMETHING YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO WORK ON, ON A DAILY BASES THIS IS HOW ALOT OF RELATIONSHIP'S GET DESTROYED DO YOU WANT TO LOSE HIM A PERSON CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH IF HE'S WILLING TO WORK WITH YOU YOUR LUCKY A MAN THAT IS IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN CAN'T CHEAT ON HER BECAUSE SHE'S THE ONLY ONE THAT HE CAN MAKE LOVE TO FUNCTION WITH THINK ABOUT IT **** LUCK THE OTHERS WEREN'T IN LOVE WITH YOU IF THEY COULD CHEAT LIKE I SAID IF A MAN IS TRULY IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN HE CAN'T CHEAT WITH ANYONE JUST REMEMBER THAT SO IF THIS GUY IS IN LOVE TRULY IN LOVE WITH YOU HE CAN'T CHEAT ON YOU NO MATTER WHAT I HOPE THIS EASES YOUR MIND AND HELPS YOU WITH YOUR TRUSTING ISSUE
2007-03-21 12:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel if you haven't already. Tell him you are placing your trust in him and want to keep the lines of communication open to avoid those things that could erode that trust.
Also remember. It will be his choice to break this. Other than being honest and open with him you cannot control him and keep him from breaking your trust.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 12:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by redflite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to learn to trust this man. You are making him pay for the shortcomings of the other men that you have had relationships with. It is unfair of you to hold this against him and all it will do will be to undermine your upcoming marriage.
2007-03-21 12:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by krupsk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm having the same issue's on that. my girlfriend hasn't done anything for me to not trust her. i know i do trust her but i feel like i shouldn't. i have been cheated on in my past and now it is reflecting this relationship. it sucks. but i love her so much so im reminding my self everytime i think about it, she's not the one that cheated on me and she does care for me. CHEATERS SUCK!!!
2007-03-21 12:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_Raida7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the baggage. If you hang on to the unplesant past, you will never be able to give of yourself 100%. You have a new fresh start, Don't screw it up with a pile of crap...
2007-03-21 12:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will just take some time for you to really understand he isnt like the other guys that you have dated .
2007-03-21 12:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by mommaknowsbest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋