yesterday i founf out that my bf isnt a virgin, i never asked until yesterday, but the way he was i just always excepted that, like he only kissed me on the 4th date... I liked the fact that we took everything slow, and that he was just as inexperience as me, made me feel relax around him and save.. But now thats gone and verything feels different, like if you had something onve you want it again, you need it, but i havent had it so i dont miss it, get were i am going, he had something i dont want to give.. How do i explain it to him because he doeesnt get how i feel, and i dont know who to explain.. Another thing, i dont want to be the inexperienced one, it feels stupid and really scary...
Please give me advice? how do i explain the way i feel..
2007-03-21 04:52:51 · 11 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Didn't you just do it here?
Start with this.
And please, if you're that flustered by this, DON'T adopt the attitude that "everyone else is doing it" That is so cliche. Be proud to be different and to be yourself. There aren't many of us left so the comraderie is only getting stronger.
2007-03-21 04:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say the above words to him it will make the two of you closer and you both can help each other through this adjustment in your thinking. Maybe his previous experience was not that good or not the involved and maybe he is not so experienced as you think. It is not all that big of a deal to be experienced or not. Your in experience is not something that should be a problem for you or him. Just talk about your worries and they will go away.
2007-03-21 05:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
jst talk 2 him an tell him how u feel, im sure he will understand. he seems like a nice guy, he hasnt rushed u in2 anything yet so maybe he is one of the gud 1s. the only thing u can do here really is hav a talk wi him.
an dnt feel bad that u r inexperienced, it means u can hav lots of fun findin out wot u like - dnt let this ruin the magic of ur first time. Gud luck xx
2007-03-21 05:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by debs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry bout it! hes still the same person, loosing his virginity could well have been a spure of the moment thing (like at a party). the other option is that he was lying as he thought you might not like the fact of him being a vrgin, you would be suprised how many boys do that, i did, im pretty sure 90% of my freinds did, it gains respect and makes you seem a hell of a lot cooler in your own mind.
inexperienced love is great, just enjoy it while you can!
2007-03-21 05:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really of asked him before now - its not like he told you his was a virgin when he wasn't and lied.
I really don't see whats changed as it doesn't sound like he is putting you under any pressure to do something your not ready for and you have to respect him for that.
You will know when you are ready and everybody gets apprehensive about it, but by the sounds of it, your with the right guy when the time is right for you.
2007-03-21 05:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're talking about - i remember a couple years ago I found out my best friend wasn't a virgin and I sorta felt like you did - it's just a shock that's all it'll pass don't worry but express your opinions to him
2007-03-21 05:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look it may be scarey but how does he feel? maybe he feels bad about it. maybe he took it slow because he feels bad about it. plus if you realy liked him you would give it a try. and if you feel inexperienced tell him let him know how you feel. hope you make the right choice. good luck. need any help email me.
2007-03-21 05:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just open up to him im sure he will understand, don't let him make you feel pressured. If he doesn't understand then he is not worth your time. But if he really cares for you he will, just let him know how you feel.
Good Luck babe xxxxxxx
2007-03-21 05:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that one of you knows what he is doing. You shouldn't sweat it, either. You are unlikely to find many virgins in today's society. It doesn't make any difference, either. That is just an old-fashioned attitude.
2007-03-21 04:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you need to grow up a bit, things are rarely the way they should be, they just are what they are.
2007-03-21 04:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋