She started up a couple of cross-country and worldwide internet romances while we were on a "break." She had called off our marriage and decided to travel to England and France with "friends" instead. Now I discovered that she is planning on visiting one of the guys in England before she hooks up with her friends and travels to Paris.
I asked her to write this guy an e-mail and tell him about me and about us, and tell him that they will meet, but with no fooling around. She claims she was too busy getting ready to leave to sit down and write the e-mail, but that she would tell him to his face when she got there.
Is she cheating on me again? Should I believe her? Or should I kick her to the curb and move on?
2007-03-21 04:42:04 · 53 answers · asked by drgolfmd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Drgolfmd....What Wicked Webs We Weave...lol..I hate to say to "kick her to the curb" so do speak but evidently something is going on. I didn't like the fact that she said "she was too busy to write this guy an email". It only takes a few minutes out of one's time to explain that she had another BF and no "hanky panky" will be discussed during her visit. I can't definitely say she is "cheating" on you but I would have to question her integritiy. I don't know you personally nor do I know your GF so it would be hard for me to "judge her" on an issue like this. And to be frank, I don't "judge" anyone. One can assume that your GF might be cheating but don't let your mind over ride your heart. If your gut feeling says she might be cheating then your insight is probably accurate. You know her better than anyone else. If she has cheated in the past during your relationship, then most likely she will do it again unless she really truely loves you.Maybe she wasn't really ready to get married and she wanted to "take flight" so do speak to see if marriage was really her "cup of tea". If you really love her than try to convince her to stay and resolve the issues between the two of you. If she doesn't even consider your request then I would rethink and take other options. Good luck and I wish you well with your problem. Have a good day.
2007-03-21 05:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to tell. She may very well be cheating on you.
Past experience does not always dictate future outcome, but there are certain things that can be predicted by previous events.
If you are having these feelings it's clear that you still have issues with trusting her after she cheated on you, and if she does not want to make a stronger effort to build your trust in her i think it may be best for you to move on and find someone who you can trust.
Her going off on these trips to different places doesn't help either.
If i were in your shoes I would confront her & let her know that you don't have very much trust in her because of what she did. If she takes offense to this then she probably has no intention of making things right. Whereas, if she understands your perspective & wants to do what she can to make you believe in her again... then you should try & see it through.
Don't let her drag you around though. If something isn't right you should put your foot down.
p.s. Her sending an email to this guy saying shes with you will not stop either of them if their intention is to have a relationship behind your back. IF she is cheating on you he may already know about you.
2007-03-21 04:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the sorrowful certainty is that for the time of a courting the place somebody (or the two) have cheated, there'll constantly be a loss of have confidence and at last it is going to wreck your courting. Relationships will never artwork devoid of have confidence. You questioning her over little issues will only push her away better if she isn't cheating. i comprehend because of the fact I dated a guy for 2 years that consistently questioned me on the slightest issues (at the same time with issues such as you suggested-like questioning that faulty quantity calls i might gotten have been men i became secretly courting) even nevertheless i might been one hundred% committed and hassle-free and not did a single concern to make him think of otherwise. it is going to certainly drove me so nuts that I had to break up with him. What you certainly would desire to contemplate is not any rely if each and each of the doubt and uncertainty and stress you experience, no rely if she's doing something incorrect or no longer, is extremely worth it? does no longer you extremely be in a chuffed and trusting courting? existence's too short to allow somebody else make you unhappy.
2016-10-01 06:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a true player and she looks at you as a member of her team. You want to be in a monogamous relationship and she is not willing to commit. Time to move on my friend as much as it may bother you, but you can't complain over something that you are allowing to happen. Break free and don't worry about if she misses you or not. She's having too much fun without you as it is. Don't you want to be happy too? Hold on, let's look at the big picture.
She's having fun, and you are worried??
What wrong with this picture? Drop her like a bad habit, because if you don't, things may get worse. Good luck.
2007-03-21 04:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact that she has cheated on you in the past: why are you still with this person. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. Sounds to me that she is doing what she wants and you are not a concern of hers. Definitely kick her to the curb and find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-03-21 04:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by riverrat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the keyword here is "again" she's done it once chances are she isn't that loyal. so i'd say while she's gone, pawn all the stuff of hers that in your place, if she has a key, change the lock. don't asnwer her calls, cut her completley loose. prove you've got a pair of big brass ones and most likley she'll want you back more than ever which is where you must show restraint in not laughing in her face, not that it's a bad idea it just leaves you open to being bitten or slapped without a chance to block it.
2007-03-21 04:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Did you not read it when you typed that she called off your marriage? Most likely she is cheating on you again, but if not it's absolutely astonishing that she would not even take the time to sit down and write that email. Obviously she doesn't care about your relationship and takes you for granted.
2007-03-21 04:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by sarah k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this scientific method to find out, it is 100% proven to work.Stand behind her and kick her in the azz as hard as you can, if she screams or says ouch then thats a positive responce.Just kiddin bro (kinda)launch her and don't look back she is not worth your time find a real woman, and just for the future NEVER give a cheater a second chance.
2007-03-21 05:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mc Fly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many times has she cheated on you? They say, once a cheater always a cheater. Do you really want to stay with her when you have doubt in your mind and it sounds to me like the trust is gone? You can't have a relationship without trust. If you do decide to stay with her, make sure that you are honest with yourself about the situation and the past experiences. If it were me, I wouldn't stay around to let myself keep getting hurt. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 04:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are with her if she cheated on you before. And secondly, YES she is. Her taking all of these trips to romantice places and overseas means that she really doesn't want you to find out about those hook - ups. And if she going to "tell" the other guy face - to -face, means that SHE IS GOING TO BE ON HIS FACE. She' not ready to commit and you know that. Dump her now before you suffer anymore heartaches. I
2007-03-21 06:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋