this is a serious question, i have this wonderful partner and have been with him for 11 years, we did live together but his snoring got that bad, we both decided that he moved out...sounds corny but it worked and we are still together....thing is when he comes to stay he snores so loud that it keeps me awake all night, i try to wake him but it just gets louder and louder... sometimes i get only 2 hours sleep at night and i think it's staring to affect my health because i am so tired all the time, i have tried to get him to get it treated but he insists that he does not snore....all joking aside though, does anyone else here have a partner who snores and how is it affecting your life/health, has it broken up your relationship? has it caused fights? i only have one bedroom in my home so most of the time i sleep on the couch...bless his heart, i love him staying over but i just cannot deal with it any more... it's getting me down, and i am so tired all the time, we even fight over it
2007-03-21 04:33:42 · 23 answers · asked by Dazzlebox 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know i am going to get some silly answers to this question, but that's fine, i could do with a laugh....
2007-03-21 04:37:22 · update #1
lol i was considering holding his nose till he turns blue.....but even that would not stop him...poor guy, the taping thing sounds good....tried nose strips, he hated them....poked, prodded him, screamed at him, belted him, nothing, must try the whistle thing, sounds like a plan.....he has gained weight and yes, it got worse, i too think he has sleep probs, but hey, he's a guy, he knows best....lol....thankyou for all your answers, at least i am not alone on this......apart from shoving a hoover up his nose, nothing has worked so far.lol...but it is serious, we recently got back together and i dont really want to break up with him again
2007-03-21 04:53:51 · update #2
oh...did i mention his twitching?....lol...yes he's a twitcher too, his feet fly up in the air and this goes on all night...jeez, i'm in a bad way.....lol....
2007-03-21 05:14:00 · update #3
I full heartedly understand. My fiance will keep me up all night and I have to wake up at 4:30am to get ready for work so it comes fast. Lucky for us we have 2 bedrooms but even when I shut his door and leave the other open I can still hear him!
The whole push them on their side does not work.
Have you tried breathing strips?
I'm worried for my fiance because I think he may have sleep apnea but he too won't admit it.
Most days I can't wait for lunch so I can take a nap so yes I am very tired and end up dragging all day so when I get home I'm a zombie then it starts all over again.
It's frustrating that he doesn't believe me when I say I want him to get checked out.
The biggest thing you can do is truly sit your partner down and tell him how you feel and that you really need him to go to a doctor to get looked at because its effecting your well being and you love him being there but if this continues maybe he won't be able to stay the night.
Maybe that will get him wanting to go to a sleep clinic if he knows he can't stay over at all.
2007-03-21 04:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by colie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there will be a lot of people who disagree with me but my experience is this:
My husband and I have been together for 7+ years and we love each other very much! We make each other laugh and I just couldn't have asked for a sweeter person to spend the rest of my life with...
but I can't sleep in the same bed with him!!!
My husband doesn't snore but he moves around a lot in his sleep. He wakes me up several times a night by laying his arm across my head or rolling over onto me! Sometimes I wake up and I'm smashed to the very edge of my side of the bed and I look over and his side of the bed is empty!
For most of our life together I have slept in another room and we have had no hard feelings about it.
I recently saw a report about this very thing (I wish I could remember where), that architects have been asked more and more to design homes with TWO master suites because more couples are sleeping apart because of snoring problems or different sleeping schedules or whatever but that this is a growing trend. But there was a psychologist or marriage counselor on the news clip that said that this wasn't healthy because people already spend more than 8 hours a day away from their partner that they shouldn't add more time apart and that the reason for sleeping apart should be dealt with.
I, personally, don't agree with her only because this hasn't caused problems in my own relationship. I believe that if I continued to sleep in the same bed with my husband it would only make me resentful and angry toward him because I would never get any sleep therefore I wouldn't be able to function during the waking hours when we ARE together.
Best of luck finding what works best for the both of you!
By the way, I also know another couple who have slept in seperate bedrooms for more than 20 years. Their bedrooms are across the hall from each other but she can still hear him snore so she turns on a "Sleep Machine" that makes white noise so her ear doesn't focus on the snoring. The "machine" makes different sounds like a rainstorm or ocean waves or crickets chirping and it really helps drown out extraneous noises. I even use it in my baby's room for his naps during the day when there's a lot of noises outside.
2007-03-21 05:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 Get to sleep before he does. If it does work then,
2 tell him to sleep by laying on his side. If still doesn't work,
3 If he don't believe he snores, record it and make him hear. If still doesn't work,
4 Take him to a doctor. Depending on what makes him snores, in some cases, an operation can be made to cure it. If still doesn't work,
5 Go to sleep in another room, . If still doesn't work,
6 leave him!
2007-03-21 04:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was told that if you whistle when the other person is snoring, they will stop. I didn't believe it at all until I had to share a hotel room with my mate and she snored something cronic - so, I whistled (felt a right muppet doing it) - but guess what? It worked.
Why don't you record yourself whistling on a MP3 or tape, and play it back. Try it - you've got nothing to lose....let me know if it works!!
2007-03-21 04:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend tels me I snore and I know I do because I've actually woke myself up with it!
Seriously, get him some of those strips you put over your nose to sleep. They have that vapo-rub stuff on them so it should open his nasal passage way. If he still insists he doesn't snore, you could always use a tape recorder!
2007-03-21 04:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a program on the tv the other night about this - I would suggest you video tape or audio record your partners snoring and play it back to him, then get him to see his GP, there is a specialist unit that helps with these types of problems.
2007-03-21 04:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you greatly - I really do - it is a nightmare situation. I have no idea how to help you or advise you except to say - get hold of a tape recorder/mp3 recorder and record him snoring and play it back to him to prove it.
There is help available from GP's but he has to accept it and go seek help!
It is a small procedure in hospital to solve the problem but the waiting list is enormous.
2007-03-21 04:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by jamand 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what to say to you apart from I know how you feel! My fella snores really bad every night too, he sleep walks & screams like a girl , he has ran into my bedroom wall before, he constantly pulls at my bedroom curtains & has ripped the ones on my bed, he has also attacked me twice in the 4 years I have been with him, in his sleep ( he was trying to save me in one of his dreams though but was actually attacking me, hahaha ) I have to shush him back to sleep and calm him down most nights, so lets just say I don't get a good nights sleep! hahahaha! Believe me it gets no easier!
2007-03-21 05:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by kel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can do two things.
1. attach two tennis balls to the back of whatever he sleeps in.
2. the chemist sells nose strips for bad snorers.
I sympathise with you, when my partner snores, I want to beat him, I usually pull his hair and he doesn't know a thing about it.Makes me feel better and stops him snoring for a while.
2007-03-21 04:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by looby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't getting any good sleep either...He needs to have a sleep study done...My husband snores and he sleep with a machine, also has sleep apnea...A doctors visit is in order here...
2007-03-21 06:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋