ok so my grandpas helth is failing so i clung onto my girlfriend and like i got mad over stupid stuff and wanted all her time but she didnt kno wabout my grandpa, soo now she says its to much stress and she doesnt want it, please guys, i just wanna tell her wats roing and win her bac, its not my fault, im gonna b completely different and wont stress her out but wat do i tell her? how can i get her bac
2007-03-21 04:21:42 · 16 answers · asked by Nathan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there. First of all you need to calm down. Seems like the stress you are going through because of your grandpa's health is really coming out in an unhealthy way towards your girl. Just tell her about the situation. Why wouldn't you tell her about your grandpa anyways That's what being in a relationship is all about. You have to share your feelings with her in a heathly way rather than going off your head and scaring her. Just be real with her and it should be ok.
2007-03-21 04:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to apologize for your behavior towards your now ex-girlfriend. A simple "I'm sorry for being a jerk," goes a long way w/ women! We know that guys do stupid things all the time and we're certainly no exception either. Explain to her that the pain you were/are feeling from trying to cope w/ your grandfather's failing health caused you a great deal of stress and you took it out on those close to you that you care for deeply. If you have a hard time expressing your feelings, that may be something you need to consult a therapist about. Not saying that seeking therapy would make you a sissy-boy, but it'll be beneficial in dealing w/ any future issues that may arise in your life and give you an understanding as to what's going on in that head of yours. Even if you bring that up w/ your ex, she'll know that you acknowledge that you were in the wrong and are willing to better yourself and seek the help you need. If she truly cares about you and you're not interested in seeking professional help, let your girl know that you'd like to continue a relationship and ask her if it would be ok if you confided in her your feelings. You can always finish off the conversation w/ a nice dinner and some flowers! Girls are suckers for romance! Good luck!
2007-03-21 11:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you have been together and how long you have been separated......
If you had a healthy and communicative relationship, you should have been able to feel comfortable to tell her about your grandfather. Are you just going back to her as you do not want to be lonely? Really reassess why you want her back. If you truly loved her and enjoyed being with her and only got mad over stupid things because of your stress due to your grandfather's health, you really have to learn how to handle your stress better. If other factors in your life cause stress and you snap or yell that it is not good for any person will be close to you in your life.
2007-03-21 11:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Smithie95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and talk to her right now. In general, guys have the tendency to hide what is really wrong and with most women we WANT YOU TO TELL US up front. And when you poured all of your emotions on her and expected her to take care of you, you may have drove her off. Women don't want a man who has a nervous breakdown at any second and with you doing this, it makes her think that you will do this at any given moment. Just talk to her. You don't have to necessarily tell her about your grandpa's condition but tell her that it is about your grandpa and that you two are really close so you felt that way and that you didn't mean to react the way you did. If she loves you enough, she will understand completely.
2007-03-21 11:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 43 so i have some relationship experience
Sorry to hear about your grandfather but to answer the question I would get your girlfriend and tell her point blank, I am sorry that I was stressed for reasons that were out of my control, I understand how you could feel overwhelmed, but I would appreciate another chance. Because I want the two of us to be happy.
Then again, if a girl is throwing hissy fits and can't understand her boyfriend's concern about the death of his grandfather, is she really worth it?
2007-03-21 11:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication! Communication! Communication! Tell her what is making you so stressed out. She should be able to understand if she cares about you. If you are old enough to have a girlfriend, you are old enough to start thinking like a man. This may be a difficult time for you because of your grandfather's illness, but you have to toughen up. Don't lean on your girlfriend so much. Girls can't stand guys who act dependent and controlling.
2007-03-21 11:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be too late, but you should still try. Tell her the truth. Tell her you're sorry, you made a mistake, and you know you should have told her the truth in the first place. Honesty is the key to any relationship.
2007-03-21 11:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Elise F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apology is what you owe her first,then explain why you reacted like you did,---and it would not happen again.to be honest I do not think I would give you another chance.How are you going to react the next time you are under stress--you should have told her long before it got too bad.We should learn by our own mistakes. good luck ----
2007-03-21 11:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth about ur grandpa..what's wrong with telling her that in the fist place?? sheesh...look at all the troubles u got urself into.
2007-03-21 11:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter telling her what happened and what's going on.
2007-03-21 11:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jamester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋