A few days ago I decided to tell a friend I loved her. The only thing is she told me she thought of me as a really good friend and nothing else, she also told me she liked someone else. The problem is I can't stop thinking about her, and don't want to give up. What do I do now?
2007-03-21 04:20:46 · 25 answers · asked by Matthew H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think I should go for it, how should I make the next move
2007-03-21 04:46:11 · update #1
If you think she's worth it then give her some space and see where it goes with the other person she likes. If it doesn't work out, then make sure you are there for her regardless. Don't do anything to jeopardize you friendship with her nor her new relationship with him. Let things play out but be there as a good friend regardless.
2007-03-21 04:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Italionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it to you but if she gave you the brush off she's not interested, and if she told you she liked someone else, in the moment after she rejected you, she's not really a very nice friend, if you ask me. WELL.. if she knew you were hurting why did she have to rub it in your face? My advice would be to stay away from her for a while, think about things, let her think about things,.. this means NO contact at all, for at least a week. Otherwise your head will stay messed up. Get some space, go away for a few days, and then pick up the friendship where you left off. She'll appreciate that, and might even be wondering why you dont want to talk about it! Girls are weird like that - we always want what we can't have. And if it's offered on a plate we don't want to know. We like to be chased but we also like giving chase ourselves. Who knows, you might have just planted a seed of thought in her head that she needs more time to think about....
2007-03-21 04:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by raingirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wot u shud do is giv it a few weeks, if u still feel that u love her then maybe you should give it another shot as she will have had time to think about it, if she did even fancy you in the slightest then u asking the question could have multiplied those felings by ten!
after the few weeks ask her again if you feel shes ready, if she rejects you again then maybe its not ment to be. whatever you do dont keep hounding her or else she'll get anoyed and possibly stop talking to you, which would be a disaster, always be agood freind to her is the main think, and if she really does like someone else (she probably used that as an excuse though as the time wasnt right or some other reason) then make sure u dont get interfear, you will inevitably blow your chanses and loose your freindship!
hope that was usefull, iv had this very same experience
2007-03-21 05:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good you went ahead and told her how you feel. But I know it must really stink that she doesn't feel the same way back and that you just can't get her off your mind. As far as I can see there isn't really anything you can do. Stay friends with her and be there for her when she needs you (don't ler her walk all over you though) and just show her that you love her so much that you are willing to stay friends with her even if she doesn't feel the same way back. Hopefully after a while she will realize that you truly do care for her and that you will be there for her no matter what (unlike most guys). Good Luck!
2007-03-21 04:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by broken_n_beautiful07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well finish the process of feeling grief that your fantasy did not match your reality. Then realize that it was very kind of her to be honest about her feelings rather than leading you on. Also, since it was just a fantasy relationship realize that you only imagine that things would be wonderful with her as a girlfriend and the reality could be very different. Turn your attentions toward someone that responds to your particular charms. You're worth someone that finds you totally fantastic and she is out there why waste time on someone that is just a friend when you can have the real friend. Good luck and have fun just be very kind to all the ladies with whom you have relations in the future.
2007-03-21 04:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know the exact situation or people. But I can tell you from experience, don't give up if you really love her. I liked/loved/whatever a guy for about 6 years...and he did the same thing...said we were great friends and said he liked someone else. And then about 2-3 months after I completely gave up on him and started dating other people, HE SAID HE WAS FALLING FOR ME!!!! So yeah my advice would be not to give up if you really love her. And good luck!
2007-03-21 04:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello you,
ever heard of the 'friend zone'................ I think you are mortified that you told her you loved her, I think she was sending you a clear message that she's not interested in you by firstly telling you that you are in the friend zone and then that she liked someone else - I suspect that she was being cruel to be kind to you. she doesn't see you as anything more than a friend and if you don't want to loose her friendship then you should move on.
Okay easier said that done, but do it for your own sanity, and please do not now get angry with her and start to treat her bad or put her down - this has happened to me when I've told guys I see them as friends - then they become unbearable to be around and the friendship is over.
one day you'll find someone else and laugh about it!
take care,
sophia
2007-03-21 04:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and keep her as a really good friend. Sooner or later, that "other someone" that she likes may be out of the picture. Try to hang in there if she means that much to you. Do things with her and have fun together while you wait. If I would have been told this by someone when it happened to me I would have been able to have gone out with him!
2007-03-21 04:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Minx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point hanging on... It's difficult to let go I know but once you're in the "friendship only" box it's going to be tough to get out of it and you're going to have to wait until she's gone through the "potential" box.
Saying she likes someone else is an excuse she probably came up with (I've used it) to let you know it's nothing to do with your personality.
Deal with the rejection and move on, don't count on her running back to you
2007-03-21 04:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Girly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it as keep nagging about it can break your friendship and she may start treating you different we all have people we like a lot and even love there are many lasses i love to bits more than others and that is the point the are others whom you will see and cant stop thinking about, be a good friend for her, let her know that you understnad but you will still be there for her if she needs you
2007-03-21 04:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by wierd and wounderful world of me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋