suicidal thought...please help me..?

Question

my problems are 1.i am just 21 and lost my mother recently..longing 4 moms luv. 2.cheatin my father by havin a gecret love affair.my dad blieves me a lot and our relaives wil speak badly if i do luv marriag.3.i got a job in a big s/w comoany but left it 4 no reasons.4.the person whom i luv sincerly lovs me very sincerly.he is not financially strong.so i used to help him by giving money and jewels altho he ll not return it. his family hurts him a lot.5.we used 2 ve sex wenever we get the chance and he even gives me sexual pleasur in the public.5.now he is pressurin me 2 tell our affair to my dad.i don know how 2 tel my dad.6.if i don obey him he ll scold me very badly by using very bad words.7.if i chat r speak with guys he wil not lik it but he believes me 100%8.he is 29 and i am 21.we r in luv 4 nearly 6 years so it clearly says tat he wants 2 ve long lasting relationship with me.9.sinc my dad has given me full freedom in money matter i used to help him.so please help me wat i ve todo

Answer 1

A mothers love is one of the greatest love, and I sympathize with you. Don't let your situation with your father define who you are as a individual. Money is temporary fix, if you love him and he loves you, than go for it. but don't forget about your father, include him in your life talk to him about the situation. Everybody needs to be and feel loved it is the greatest human need. suicide is not the answer, take time out for yourself, find out who you are and what you want. Life is worth living.

Answer 2

First, calm down. That was some frantic typing.

It sounds like you're in a bit of a mess at the moment, and I can't tell you specifically what to do to fix it, but I can give you the same advice I give most everybody else.

Independence.

I am of the opinion that until you can take care of yourself, you can't handle other people, in any capacity. It sounds like to me you've never really been independent.

You've been with this guy for 6 years, and both during and before that you were with your parents. I suggest moving out on your own, being single for a bit, taking care of yourself. Don't worry about your father or your boyfriend or any of that. Be alone until you are happy again. Then, when that happens, see how the other people fit in your life.

So forget about pleasing your father, and don't bother supporting your man. If either of them really love you they'd understand.

Answer 3

It sounds to me that you are of another ethnic background. You are afraid to sin against your own religion from what it sounds like! Either that or you are very confused and don't know what way to turn. I would say follow your heart. Your an adult now and you deserve to be an adult. Go with your heart and be with the man who you love. Your father needs to cut the apron strings now. Sorry for the lose of your mother! That is a very hard thing to deal with! Remember her in the good times and hold her forever in your heart. I hope this helps some!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

You dont say anything about think ing about killing yourself
Your dad has given you control of $ so elope and go take some english classes you dont sound like your gonna kill your self, you just dont know how to take chastisment from your dad good luck your 21 be a woman,

Answer 5

Sorry for the loss. Your 21, you live out from under your family home...
If this is something you want to do your father has two choices, accept or not to accept. I think in this case it doesn't really matter what your father thinks at this point.

Answer 6

what is that makes you want to kill yourself.what ever the problem is get ried of it .you have alot of pressure on you learn how to deal with it.your father has lived his life .you are young live and be happy .