so i think im addicted to "bad-guys" i always pick the ones that like to fight and be crazy jelous then im mad that they fight with me and are jelous. im with someone right now and i think i love him... well i mean i do. but we fight all the time. i woulc see myself marrying him... but we FIGHT LIKE CRAZY. and it makes me cry... (ladys.... u know the guys that make you cry...) bad news... so what do i do.. im looking for tips on how to improve the relationship. MEN DONT GET ME WRONG I FIGHT BACK ITS NOT JUST HIM... but how do i stop the argueing and jsut say... sorry and be loveing... we both get soo wraped up its rediculous - any ideas??
2007-03-21 04:07:14 · 13 answers · asked by LIL JAY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to talk to him about it, tell him you really want it to work but your tired of the fussing, my bf and I are kind of like you and your bf, well we use to be.
We use to argue and fuss all the time, but one day we realized if we kept going this route the relationship would be over in less than a month.
We talked about it, and each others' needs in the relationship, what he needed to be happy, what I needed to be happy. What make me sad, what made him angry. and it's so much better.
Of course, like any couple it's not perfect but with everyday we grow we understand each other more. If you do this with your bf and he loves you, he'll be willing to do the same.
P.S. my boyfriend is a "bad boy" too, but love can turn anyone around, trust me!
Good luck!
2007-03-21 04:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship like that recently, and to tell you the truth...it's not worth it. I wound up in jail because of a fight with my ex (which is also my son's father). He had the bruises and a banged up car, and I got to take a trip to the jail house, for two and a half days...and I was 3 months pregnant with his son. The price I paid for something that I thought was real love. It's not worth it, get out while you still can. The relationship that I am in now, is extremely worth having. We don't fight and we trust each other. Who could ask for anything more. Just be careful and don't make the same mistakes that I made.
2007-03-21 04:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by N0+ 3@$!Ly &R0]{3n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about him but you can't handle the fighting anymore. If the both of you can not come to some kind of understanding about each other's feelings maybe the two of you need to split up. It is not healthy to be fighting with each other. Maybe you need a break from this guy...only when you take this break will YOU know for sure if you really want this guy in your life. If he is getting physical with you....hitting you.....he will not stop doing it.....this is how he gains power over you. Sounds to me like he wants "control" & he is getting it. Personally I would leave him....
2007-03-21 04:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahahahahaha, let me ask you something, would you be satisfied if your marraige went exactly like your relationship right now. being married changes women it does not change men. he's not gonna treat you any better with time you realize that right. the simple and honest truth of every relationship is you get treated the very very best early on and it slowly degrades over time. if you guys are fighting and crying now i have a feeling eventually someones gonna throw something be it a lamp or a fist and then sh!ts really gonna hit the fan. but hey it's your life, it's your mistake to make. just know that everything that happens to you at the hands of a bad boyfriend you bring on yourself by picking the guy to begin with and staying with him without standing up for youself. no sympathy for people who continue to screw up their life and can't understand why.
2007-03-21 04:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz you need to look for better guys.. try a library haha. Find someone that has his life together. You need to build your self esteem and realize that you don't need that....
I know.. trust me.. been there dont that.. and no matter how much u love them.. they will never change..... You get into these bad relationships and stay in them cuz you like the drama... i hope in time you realize that you are really not that happy and you deserve someone who will love you and not fight with you all the time.. but be there to rub your feet any time you want it like me...........
2007-03-21 04:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would might desire to count on the guy. some human beings are completely large with boyfriends who take a seat on the settee all day. i might say a undesirable boyfriend is somebody who makes you sense undesirable approximately your self, or doesnt instruct you admire. I mean admire in a large experience although. that is as low as making helpful you sense particular, or not finding out different ladies in front of you. a solid boyfriend might desire to make you prefer to be a miles better individual. wish that facilitates!
2016-10-19 06:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YOU CAN'T STAND FIGHTING EVERY TIME WE FIGHT IT PUSHES ME AWAY FROM YOU IT CAUSES ALOT OF DAMAGE THAT CAN'T BE REPAIRED I WANT A PEACEFUL QUITE LOVING RELATIONSHIP WHERE WE CAN GET ALONG AND ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY IF NOT I HAVE TO LET YOU GO EVEN THOUGH I LOVE YOU THAT DOESN'T MEAN I HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOU WE CAN LOVE EACH OTHER FROM A DISTANCE BUT I NEED TO FIND SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T FIGHT ALL THE TIME YES WE CAN HAVE DISAGREEMENTS SOMETIMES BUT NOT ALL THE TIME MAYBE WE JUST DON'T GET ALONG OTHERWISE I NEED TO MOVE ON AND NOT WASTE MY TIME MY TIME IS TO PRECIOUS I WANT TO HAVE FUN AND GROW OLD WITH THAT PERSON I WANT TO GET MARRIED GET A JOB OF COURSE WE'LL MALE THE MONEY TOGETHER I WANT TO GROW OLD WITH MY TRUE LOVE THE MAN OF MY DREAMS I WANT TO ROCK IN THE ROCKING CHAIR NEXT TO HIM WHEN I'M OLD IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT IF NOT TELL ME NOW IT'S BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW BEFORE IT GOES ON ANY FURTHER IF YOU DON'T KNOW NOW LET ME KNOW WHEN YOU FIND OUT IN THE MEAN TIME I'M GOING TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE I HAVE TO DO WHAT I THINK IS RIGHT GOOD LUCK BE STRONG AND FIRM WITH HIM DON'T GIVE IN THEN HE'LL KNOW YOU MEAN IT
2007-03-21 04:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a psychologist friend who had a patient who always argued with her boyfriends and ended up always getting beat up. He asked her where she hung out to meet her boyfriends. Biker bars. But she kept saying that they were just really mis-understood. But she kept getting beat up and didn't understand why. You do need therapy. Look into it.
2007-03-21 04:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and focus on what is REALLY important.
There will be so much less to fight about.
2007-03-21 04:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start choosing nicer boyfriends by going to therapy and working on your self esteem.
2007-03-21 04:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋