What is the best and slow way to make ur way from gf to ex/ friend?

Question

I want to make the move because I don't like how thing are going

Answer 1

I'm not sure there is a best way and slow is always bad. it's best to cut it off quickly instead of doing it slowly. Think of it as cutting your arm off, would you rather a large axe cut it off at once, you can mend it, take pain medicine for it and after a few weeks it will not be hurting. Or would you rather a plastic knife take a month to cut if off, during that entire time you are trying to take pain medicine but cannot mend it because it is still being cut off. Once it is finally done you can mend it, take pain medicines and after a few weeks it will be OK.

What am I trying to say? Doing it slowly only prolongs the pain and heartache of a breakup. The best way to do it is face to face talking about it.

Answer 2

This is sticky and there is not best way. It really depends on who you and your ex broke up and who broke up with whom. Also realize that in the future when someone else he is serious with might not like that his ex is his friend and might make him choose between herself and you.

I have a friend going through this and it is very painful. The majority of people I know cut ties with exes while a rare minority can be friends. It is difficult to move beyond being GF to friends (especially when you were not friends before dating).

Good luck.

Answer 3

It is not right or fair to do it slowly. The best way is to sit down with the other person and have an honest discussion. You should explain that your feelings have changed and that you want to end the relationship. Yes, it's hard and painful, but much less painful in the long run.

Answer 4

There is really no best way to do this. One thing I will tell you is that you have to open and honest to the person. Don't string them along. Tell them that you don't see you as a couple working out, but you would like to remain friends. Honestly though, it's unlikely that you will remain friends.

Answer 5

Stop calling as much, cancel a few dates, and start talking to him as you would a friend. When he questions you about it, tell him this is how you are to all your friends.

Although I don't recommend doing this, tell him how you feel, that you don't want to be in a relationship any longer and why.

Answer 6

there is no magic formula open honest clean break is better if u want them to remain ur friend but if they dont want o b ur friend u have to accept that decision