He says that they are childhood friends and her children are going. They are staying in the same hotel room. She is separated from her husband. I am very uneasy about this and do not want him to go. Am I being irrational?
2007-03-21 03:43:57 · 30 answers · asked by drgntatt69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should know better then to put you in that position, how would he feel if you did that. On the other hand do you trust him? I do admit though that it does raise some questions about his intentions if he is going to put himself in such a position. I don't think your being irrational, I think that it is reasonable to be concerned about such a bizarre situation. Just remember, it is all about trust.
2007-03-21 03:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, going on a vaca with a childhood friend could be fun!
Exept when your boyfriend is going with another woman and staying in the same hotel room!
He really shouldn't be out and about like that. If he is really into going, you need to go as well, just to make sure. Even if he's been your boyfriend of an entire year, you can't trust him just yet, especially if he wants to go out and do things like this.
Solution One:
Has he ever cheated on you before? Whether the answer is yes or no, you need to talk to him. If he insists that he's going, and you can't go, and he won't do anything with her, I think it's time to let this guy go.
Solution Two:
This is a good one. I use it very often myself. Get his concience out and working. Tell him how much he means to you and see if his concience kicks in. You could change his entire life! He might just invite you along and stay in a room with you, not her!
Solution Three:
Break it off. If he has ever cheated on you, lied to you, or betrayed you in any way before, you need to let this guy go!
2007-03-21 11:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What concerns me is that you really need to ask this question? This makes me feel your boyfriend thinks it is easy to convince you of anything, especially this outrageous story of his! A lonely divorced woman in the same hotel room with your boyfriend. I mean, hello, wake up! Any guy who claims to be your boyfriend and has the nerve to make light of spending time with another woman for what ever reason sounds insensitive to me. If there was nothing going on, then why did he not invite you? Think think think! He obviously thinks you are a pushover and will blindly believe anything he tells you! Sorry to sound so cruel, but I feel someone had to tell you! Stop trying to be "so nice" and regain the respect he obviously has lost for you. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-21 10:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being irrational. They're staying in the same room? I think, if you saw the room, as the expression goes, "the handwriting's on the wall." In other words I think your suspicions are right. It sounds like hanky panky to me. I'd let him go and change the lock on my door. Ask him if you could go away with a male friend and stay in the same room. How do you think he'd react?
2007-03-21 10:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is not too concerned about way things appear. No, you are not being irrational. It sounds like he is taking this woman on a test drive. If it doesn't workout on this trip, he will still have you back at home. Let him read these answers and see how he answers you. If you are important to him, he will give up this trip and apologize to you for even thinking about going without you.
2007-03-21 11:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel uneasy about this. But let me tell ya, instead of making world war 3 out of it, let him go. If he's gonna go he's gonna go. If you smile and say have a great trip and be supportive, he may think you're the coolest girl in the entire world and come back with a ring. Try to trust him. And just come here and vent while he's gone.
Oh just simply say you'd feel better if you got seperate rooms. If he weasles out of it, be packed and gone when he returns. He can go, but no sharing a room. That's off the table.
2007-03-21 10:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You culd try to go along, or at least try and enxplain to him your feelings in a very rational way. You cannot stop a guy from going to another woman by showing you are jealous. Just show to him that you are better than the other woman. If you cannot, he`s not worth it.
2007-03-21 10:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by ioana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't allow it. All relationships start off as just friends. If you let him go your relationship will be in big trouble. Do you always want to have to wonder if something happened between them on the trip. It is going to bother you for a long time. I would put my foot down if I were you. Did he even offer for you to go on the trip with them? What a jerk!
2007-03-21 10:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not...for absolutley no reason should your boyfriend be going on vacation with another woman...if it was nothing between them and just a friendship wouldnt he invite you...everyone wants that someone special with them when they go on vacation...you should let him know that this is wrong and unacceptable to you...why would they be staying in the same room..very fishy!!
2007-03-21 10:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy! 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You better stop him, that doesn't make sense, if they are really friends you should go too, after all you are his gf. Or you can tell him that is OK because you are going on vacation with your childhood friend too...
2007-03-21 10:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by bb4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋