My mom left my dad,my little brother and me.?

Question

At first i was sad about the whole thing, but now every time i'm near her, think about it, or they talk about it; i want to loose it. my parents have always been controling. but now ifind myself doing whatever i want and thinking the worst thoughts. They try to give me medication but i used to take ridalyn as a kid and ever since i was old enough to stop i never take any kind of that medication. what do i do?

Answer 1

I will let you into something - many years ago it happened to me and I was the youngest of seven. My dad took us all on board and even though at the time it must have been really hard for him - I was to young to understand his rules. However, I obeyed them and got on with it so to speak. He would not allow contact with Mother though and she did not attempt to gain contact either.

I tell you the above briefly to give you an idea of what happened in my life.

Now I have turned it all around. I grew up and made positive decisions with my life on how to handle it. Vowing that when I got married I would have the love of my children first and foremost in my life along with my husband. Because it has happened to you does not mean that you have to carry it on. You can break the mold now and love your dad and small brother endlessley and help them to realize that between you, you can all get through this. You will all need to support each other and as time goes on you will truely gain more confidence and understanding of your family and rely on each other a lot. Be there for yourself at the same time and stop thinking the worse, because you can break that mold - get rid of it and learn from the breakup and you will in turn become a stronger person and in time have more understanding in later life for your own family. Please try, dont give anyone the satisfaction of saying you are out of control etc., its going to be hard I can say, but with you three all pulling together the road will be easier. I wish you all the luck in the world because you deserve it, but speak to your Pa about how you now want to be there for him and he you, give it a try.

Answer 2

So your mum left your dad to look after you and your brother - I'm sure he is doing the best for you both under the circumstances, cut him a little slack as it can't be easy for him either, he has feelings.

You are bound to be upset by this whole episode, but it affects everyone, not just you, have you tried talking to your dad about how you feel, or another family member - it sounds like your bottling up your anger and fustration and then taking it out on the people around you.

Answer 3

it sounds like the medication thing doesnt only have 2 do with ur past
it sounds like something with ur mom?
mabye u dont realize this or mabye this isnt the case at all but refusing to take medication ur pleaing 4 attention

and if u need to loose it then do so
well dont go all the way
relaxe type o loose it
i dont no how guys do it but us girls usually eat ice cream and watch tv with our best friends
ur eqivalence would probablly be watching like some world series game, have some hot dogs, and invite your closest friends over
if u have a girlfriend ask out on a date
if u need to just go to some quite place and speak ur mind where no one can hear u...cry if u need 2

Answer 4

It is always sad when a family self-destructs. What this means to you? You have to grow up faster and take responsibility for yourself. You have to ask yourself, is this medication going to help me? What concerns me is you thinking the worst thoughts. This type of thinking is beyond the glass is half empty type of thinking. It sounds like you need to talk with a counselor about things. Also, try to keep and eye on your little brother and help him make the right choices.

Answer 5

i'm not a believer in medicating children as the first solution...from a medical perspective, medicines are tested in adults, not children. studies aren't performed on children so doses and treatment plans are educated guesses, at best.

remind yourself that your mom leaving says everything about her relationship with you dad - her spouse - than it does you and your brother. i don't want to say you're unimportant, bec you're not, but what was more important and more pressing to your mom was probably what was going on betw her and your dad.

you have every right to be angry. however, as you grow older and involved inrelationships of your own, you may realize that it take a LOT for relationships to grow together and it's very easy for them to break apart. instead of thinking the worst, concentrate on you and coming into your own, making your way in the world, helping your little bro who must be as confused if not more so, than you. get fit mentally and strong as it will pay off fortunes in the long run. good luck.

Answer 6

Pick up the phone book, look up youth hot-line number, and call.

They will help you.

I think you need counseling to deal with things.

Right now, you're reacting to everything, and not thinking clearly.

A good therapist will help you be able to think more clearly and come to grips with your situation.

Answer 7

You should really talk to them about it. Tell them how upset you are. If they love you and they do they would understand. It might be hard but you can get through it. I'll be here too if you want to talk about it.