ok heres the thing my boyfriend wants me to become a part of his family he wants me to meet his whole family and so does his mom i dont mind i like most of his family but me and his grandma dont seem to um rub the right way she just sitts there and watches me when ever im around and it bothers me his whole family sister's, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandpartents go on a weekend camping trip for there family reunion and it lasts 3 days and his mom and him want me to go with.... but i dont know if i should go if me and his grandma dont get along casue me and him and his 'rents have to sleep in a two room tent and she has a mojor problem with us sleeping together. what should i do
2007-03-21 03:31:00 · 15 answers · asked by Chevy Babe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do like him and i do love him. his mom has told me that her mum is a ***** her words not mine. and that she is realyl old fashioned she belives in a saying that says "dont date tell ur married dont have kids tell ur dead" everyone else likes me that i've met so far. i'm going to go because i want to spend time with my love and i want to get to know more of his family. she just scares me and makes it really tense when she's around
2007-03-21 03:44:38 · update #1
You can not please every person all of the time. If you get along fairly well with the rest of his family, don't let the slight tension with his grandmother stand in the way of you guys having a good time. She may not like it, but as adults, you have the right to make choices about your lives without her opinion or approval. Enjoy your trip.
2007-03-21 03:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront his grandma face to face about how uncomfortable she is making you feel. Have your boyfriend standing with you when you do this. Also his mom should be there as well. The grandma has no business making you feel this way. If she can't get over you and your boyfriend sleeping side by side maybe the grandma should not go along on the camping trip. Get this situation justified! Stick to your GUNS on this. Cocoa
2007-03-21 10:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant please everyone. No matter what you do or how nice and accommodating you try to be, some people just aren't going to like you no matter what you do.
I would say try and talk to grandma but I'm afraid that won't change much of anything. Grandma's tend to get set in their ways and when they make up their minds, it's usually pretty tough to get them to change it. Just try to grin and bear it as much as you can and give grandma a lot of space.
Let her see you interacting with the family and being accepted by them and eventually she may start to wear down.
I had a grandma that felt the same way about all my girlfriends at first, but eventually she turned off the venom and accepted them.
2007-03-21 10:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Thrill K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should go. If everyone else likes you grandma will come around eventually. She's still in the old days. Get out there and have some fun with everyone and stay clear of granny. Just to help alone with granny. Sleep with the girls if possible. If you sleep with your boyfriend granny is really going to dislike you. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!
2007-03-21 10:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the negative nelly bug you have and go on the trip! If you have to, buy yourself a tent and be done with it. If most everyone in the group is good with you coming along, then Grandma will just have to get over it! And, unless there's more to the grandmae "thing", YOU COULD BE WRONG ABOUT HER NOT LIKING YOU.
Do you love him?
Do you want to be with him?
If you can learn to get along with his family, the sooner you will actually be HIS family! ;O)
2007-03-21 10:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, if you're going to the trip, then go because of HIM and nobody else... if you are having problems with his grandmother, i'm sorry... but then again, who isn't? i mean, we will always meet people that we won't get along with... count what you have (good relationships with him and the rest of the family), and not the one bad apple that is in the trip... appreciate the fact that him and his mom want you there, and not worry abt the one person who doesn't seem to want you there. show him care about him and being with him, and not about what his grandma would think.
2007-03-21 10:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's more important? A gradma who doesn't like you? Or your love for this boy? I'de say, if worse comes to worse, you should ask him. Tell him what you think but doin't make it sound acusing. Tell him something like: 'it may just be me, but I think your grandmother doesn't seem to like me too much. I see her staring at me a lot and it makes me nervous.' He will answer, he's knows his grandma more than I do. She is porbably sad becuase she knows your mights take him away from her. I wish you good luck! God will be with you! Always pray! Go to the trip!
2007-03-21 10:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by ♥•♥Melody♥•♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to talk with Grandma before you "smoke 'em pipe" with the family. If you can't work things out, despite how you feel about your bf., the meeting may be wrong.
2007-03-21 10:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should go on the trip show the upmost respect to his grandmother but if she doesn't put her old *** in her place thats what it takes sometimes dont kiss nobody ***
2007-03-21 10:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by MiZz rOcK uP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't give heed to this.There are some grand moms who r jealous.But u love him don't u ? Then just go with him. May be u r more beautiful then her.
2007-03-21 10:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by princess_me_dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋