please help, her family hates me?

Question

ive been dating my current girlfriend for 6months, and i love her to death, ive met her mum and her mum likes me, but her brother hates me, he has been telling her dad that im on drugs, that im using her for sex etc (which im not), i havent met her dad yet and already he thinks that, i mean her brother already hates me cause i confronted him about the fact he hits his sister, he is a very abusive SOB (i had 2 stop myself from breaking his nose), its cause of him that she has no confidence, no belief in herself, and the only reason i can see why he would hate me was because i am undoing the damage he has inflicted on her over the years, so im assuming its a power thing, how should i deal with the brother and dad??? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated =) thanx in advanced

Answer 1

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If he is the way you say he is, then the father already knows that he's manipulative. Don't sweat that.
Once you meet the father, just be yourself and EVERYTHING that he's told her will nullify itself as the father (who's mature) will see right through the manipulation.
But, above all - be yourself and it'll make the father more comfortable around you.

As far as the brother - distance yourself (detach). The more he knows about you, the more he'll use that information to distort the reality. Perception is his motivation - trying to destroy yours.

Good luck, bro.

Answer 2

He's right... I had similar advice.
You've got her mom on your side, and girls often value their mothers opinion over brothers or fathers.
Because the parents allow such abuse, I doubt the mother has much power of persuasion over the father.
You did the right thing in confronting the brother but don't do it again anytime soon. Blood is thicker than water and she might take her family's side if things get any more hectic.