Old friend since high school emails me again after many years and we start talking online.He said that I was the love of his life and that if we had stayed together we would have gotten married. He was quite open about his feelings straight away. He said that he was going through a divorce and currently living with a woman who was there for him. He said that she was not the love of his but rather they had mutual trust and understanding. He never thought that I would ever pop up in his life again. When I mentioned to him that I felt the same way about him, he completely shut down and said he had "circumstances' and that all he could offer me was friendship. He reads my emails sometimes 6-10 times over and over. I have a way of tracking emails. He lives overseas and he has said when he comes back to my area he will let me know. when I mention to him that I will be overseas and that I can meet him for a drink if he likes. He reads the email 11 times and replies with, I am too busy.
2007-03-21 03:28:08 · 4 answers · asked by monalisa79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds to me that this guy is a little confused on what he wants, if i were you id be very blunt and honset with him and ask him why he contacts you and if he dont want anything more than a relationship with you then to stop contacting you,and to stop reading your emails!
2007-03-21 03:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh darling, he is playing you i am afraid. he has a whole other life that he does not want you to know about and therefore enjoys the e mails because it is safe. maybe he does care for you but the timing is all wrong. you should back off and play cool.it sounds to me that maybe he is not happy in his life and you are an escape for him but at the moment that is all you can be to him. i was in a similar situation once and i was totally in love with a man who i saw only twice in 3 years and he said very similar things. i backed off and now we have been together for 4 and half yrs and are getting married. i am not saying that this is true of your case, but sometimes you have to let go to see what happens, so dont push it and get on with your life and if he still per sues contact then take it from there. but i am afraid that it will be on his terms only.
2007-03-21 10:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by pom pom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't it obvious? the guy only is interested if he can get a little of the veg between the legs, he needs to grow up, he is only gonna use u to get over this divorce and he might be usin that other chick too, u need to tell him NO THANKS, that u can only be a shoulder to cry on and NOTHING MORE! u notice when u want to hang out with him he's TOO BUSY? why u think that is? he might be TOO BUSY getting some from someone else, if a guy cares for u he would never be TOO BUSY to spend time with u, tell him to bugger off and MOVE ON TO SOMETHING (SOMEONE) BETTER!
2007-03-21 13:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by kamarla_phillips06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow , I'm sorry to hear you have such a confused man in your life .. there has to be a man in your country that will love and appreciate you without all the games. although it going to be hard to find I'm sure when you do the love you will experience will be wonderful! i think your dude now is just going through some drama in his life and he needs an escape path and that's where you come in ... A BLAST FROM THE PAST !!! good luck hun :o)
2007-03-21 10:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by live in the magic of life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋