ok so this is a question 4 ppl who know how to plan a wedding?

Question

im not getting married or anything but my cousin is and i just wanted to know the basics of what to do......
when to reserve a place
when to order cake that info is good but i really want to know is what are the things you supposed to do at the reception such as the throwing of the flowers.....please tell me everything you know about this and the reason why its done

much appreciated

yea what i want to know is like stuff about what you do at the reception....like the garder thing....btw whats a garder belt?
just stuff like that but all these answer are good stuff to know as well i plan on getting married but not anythime so
keep 'em coming guys

much apreciated <3

Answer 1

Ok, from the looks of the other answers, everyone is telling you the time line for planning the wedding. To me it sounds like you want to know what to do during the wedding and reception. Ok here goes....

Ok you want to start about 2 hours before the wedding starts to take pictures. Now you can do all of them then or you can just do the ones where the bride and groom aren't together in the picture.

Then you have the ceremony, of course. I'm sure you know how that part goes but just in case.
-Processional (seating of grandparents and parents, bridesmaids, flower girl and ring bearer walk down the asile)
-Enterance of the Bride
-Wedding vows
-Lighting of the Unity Candle
-Ring vows
-Anoucement of Husband and Wife
-Processional
(Now this order can differ depending on religion and such)

Now, if you going to have one, you have the receiving line. You can either do it outside the ceremony or as everyone is walking into the reception. It depends on if your ceremony and reception are at the same place.

Then, if the Birde and Groom didn't take their pictures together before the wedding, they would do this now.

They everyone goes to the reception.
-Entance of Bride and Groom
-Cutting of the cakes
-The wedding Toast
-The first dance
-The Father/Daughter Dance
-The Mother/Son Dance
-Let's Eat

When the reception is over or when the Bride and Groom decide to leave that's when everyone lines up outside to throw birdseed or rice, or blow bubbles, or ring bells. Whatever you decide to do.

I hope this helps you. This is the pretty normal order of stuff but it can change some. It's really just however the Bride wants the order of events to go. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Everyone has different traditions and I'm not sure what yours are. So I'm gonna tell you the traditional stuff we do in my family.

We usually start the reception around 4:30pm with the dinner.

Then at around 7:00pm just as the dance is going to start we have the couple's first dance, followed by the father-daughter, mother-son dance. After that we do the dollar dance. All that consists of is the couple continuing to dance a valse while the guest dance with them and pin money to their attire. We always like to start a train for the groom so that he could have a tail just like the bride.

After the dollar dance we invite all the single ladies to do the snake dance or la vivora de la mar where they dance holding hands making one long line and go around the bride and groom while they're standing on chairs. The guys get to do this too. Then the bride throws the bouquet. Then the groom gets to take off the garter from the bride's thigh and he gets to throw the garter. Then we have a fast paced song for the singles that caught the bouquet and garter to dance. Then the dance gets started.

About half way through the dance they do the toast and the cutting of the cake. and then the party continues.

Answer 3

Well, the earlier you reserve the church (or marriage site) and receptional hall is best. That why you get the date and time you want. If getting married in the peak times prob May-Oct. a year in advance is good.
The next thing i booked was the DJ since I knew a particular one I wanted and needed to make sure he could save the date.
Then booking the photographer and videochoreographer (sp?) is important.
Make sure to do the dress at least 6 months or earlier in case it needs ordered and altered.
I say flowers and cake would be good around 6 months ahead of time.
At the wedding reception the wedding party gets announced when they arrive.
Then when everyone get's settled for dinner the Best Man normally gives a toast/speech.
After dinner the bride and groom dance first to their song; and then the bridal party to the bridal dance.
After that it is what the bride and groom want.
They could do Father/Bride Mother/Groom dances
The Money dance
The bouqet toss
the garter toss
the reverse garter
Most times if you get a good DJ he can help plan when it is a good time to do all the activites

Answer 4

There is not set rules on planning a wedding. Rule of thumb the earliest you can do things, do it. YOu can either get a book that lays out what needs to be done and have time lines. Also most wedding magazines have planning guides in them with check lists and worksheets and all.

Answer 5

you can reserve a place like 3 months early,order the cake 3 weeks before.you also need to book the band or dj 2 months early so if they do not have any songs you want played they have time to find them.besides eating,the best man normally gives a toast,the bride and groom have their first dance and the wedding party also dances together,then there is a father/daughter dance(for bride and her father) and also a mother/son(groom and his mother) that's all tradition.the bride throws her bouquet to all the single women and that is supposed to mean who is getting married next,the groom also throws the garter to all the single men and its supposed to mean the same thing.the bride and groom cut the first piece of cake and feed each other,thats also part of tradition.

Answer 6

Try these websites for your answer:

http://www.ehow.com/how_4643_wedding.html

or

http://www.baxtersjewellers.com/wedding_check_list.html?gclid=CL3Fk7yOhosCFQGPWAodLRKlKA


and/or

http://www.yorkville.k12.il.us/webquests/webqwhite1/index.html

Good luck with the plans and there are many bridal books out there that help and you can do a lot with a yellowpage telephone book and listening to what your cousin wants and doesn't want and especially what the budget is for the wedding. Include the spouse to be as much as possible.

Don't get stressed it will all work out.

Answer 7

Amanda- Get a wedding planner book!

Answer 8

That is alot of info to cover in one question, but I will try to cover the basics here...

Nine to Twelve Months Before

* Establish a preliminary budget.
* Select a wedding date and time. (Date is done have you selected a time?)
* Determine who will officiate at the ceremony.
* Announce your engagement in the newspaper. (optional)
* Determine how many guests you can afford
* Determine the type of wedding you want (formality, style, color scheme/theme).
* Select the attendants for your wedding party.
* Select and secure a photographer.
* Select and secure your ceremony location.
* Select and secure your reception location.
* Select a caterer if not already provided by the reception.
* Begin choosing your wedding cake baker, videographer, musicians, and florist. Sign necessary contracts.
* Pick out engagement ring with fiancé. (if not given to you at proposal)

Six to Nine Months Before

* Shop for the wedding dress, headpiece, veil, etc.
* Select and order the bridesmaids' dresses.
* Start compiling the guest list (inform your families to do the same).
* Start planning for honeymoon.
* Register with a gift bridal registry in your favorite store.

Four to Six Months Before

* Check requirements for blood test and marriage license in your state.
* Make appointments for a physical exam with your doctor/dentist. (optional unless required by state)
* Shop for wedding rings.
* Select and order the invitations and stationery.
* Decide where to live after the wedding.
* Complete the guest lists.
* Inform mothers to select their dresses.
* Select and order the men's attire.
* Finalize honeymoon details and make the necessary reservations.

Two to Four Months Before

* Confirm the menu and catering details with the caterer.
* Prepare all maps and directions for the ceremony and reception.
* Select your wedding rings.
* Buy a wedding guest book.
* Set the dates and times with the officiant for the rehearsal.
* Plan the bridesmaids' luncheon and any other parties.
* Determine your resources for designing and printing the program for the ceremony.
* Finalize the florist details, photographer, videographer, musicians, etc.
* Arrange the necessary accommodations for out-of-town guests.
* Plan a rehearsal dinner, time and place.
* Confirm the wedding cake details with the baker.

Six to Eight Weeks Before

* Mail invitations and announcements.
* Set appointment with photographer for your formal bridal portrait. (optional)
* Select gifts for all your attendants.
* Set appointments with any hairdressers and/or makeup artists.
* Hire the limousine or other forms of transportation for the wedding.

Four to Six Weeks Before

* Decide what your menu is going to be for the reception. (Estimate the expected number of guests.)
* Buy a gift for the groom.
* Pick up your wedding rings.
* Purchase/Borrow all wedding accessories such as the ring pillow, goblets, garter belt, candles, etc.
* Confirm florist details and delivery times.
* Plan the seating for the reception as well as other details for the ceremony and reception. Start writing placement cards.
* Make sure all bridesmaids' attire has been fitted.
* Buy a gift for the bride.

Two Weeks Before

* Make arrangements to have your wedding gifts moved to your new home.
* Get information for business and legal details such as name changes, address changes, etc.
* Reconfirm your guests' accommodations
* Make sure all clothing and accessories for you and the bridal party are ready.
* Get your marriage license and any blood tests which are needed.

One Week Before

* Review any seating details with the ushers.
* Make sure all wedding attire fits.
* Finalize the seating arrangements.
* Reconfirm your honeymoon reservations. Ensure you have any necessary plane tickets.
* Start packing for your honeymoon.
* Call any guests who have not responded yet.
* Finish all the place cards for the reception.
* Review all the final details with your photographer, videographer, etc.
* Give a final head count to the caterer.
* Confirm the availability of the musicians and vocalists.
* Delegate responsibilities to reliable individuals on your wedding day
* Finalize your rehearsal dinner arrangements or other plans.

One Day Before

* Get a manicure or massage to relax yourself. (optional)
* Review and rehearse all the details of your participants.
* Wrap and present the wedding party gifts.
* Get to sleep early.

The Big Day

* Allow yourself plenty of time to get dressed.
* Be sure to eat properly.
* Rest and relax with a good bath.
* Prepare for your hairdresser and makeup appointments.
* Enjoy your wonderful wedding and cherish each and every moment!!!
* Make sure the best man and maid of honor sign the wedding certificate.


Ceremony Order (Rough Version):
Mothers are seated
Groom takes place at front (with or without groomsmen, determined by whether they are to walk with the bridesmaids or not)
Bridesmaids proceed down aisle, usually junior to maid of honor (with or without groomsmen)
Ringbearer proceeds down aisle
Flowergirl proceeds down aisle
Bride proceeds down aisle (accompanied or not, up to bride)

Pictures are usually taken here

Greeting or Call to Service
Charge to the couple or Declaration of Intent (this is usually where the officiant makes clear what a serious commitment is taking place)
Exchange of Vows & Rings
Kiss
Recessional (same as procession but in opposite order, and this time the groomsmen DO walk with the bridesmaids or alternates with them)

Some couples choose now to do a Receiving Line as guests are leaving the ceremony site for the reception site

More pictures are taken of newlyweds while guests go to reception site

Reception Order (Rough Version):
Hor' devours are served

Newlyweds are announced (sometimes bridal party is announced as well... if this is they case they are announced prior to the newlyweds)

Dinner is served (some couples do a few dances before the dinner)

Dancing

Cake Cutting

Dancing

Bouquet Toss & Garter Toss (if being done)

Couple leaves

A garter is a small band of lacey elastic that fits around a womans upper leg

hope that helps, if you need further information email me and I will do my best to answer your questions.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

theknot.com has everything she will need to know.