I have been dating this guy for like almost 3 months now. He had told me from the get go that he is workn long hours on end as he is trying to buy a house in spring. I totally understood that and I knew wat I was getting myself into. Any free time we have we enjoy each others company. However there are times he has free time but he chooses not to even see me despite the fact that we rarely see each other. I always have to constantly have to ask him to come see me or me go see him and try and convince him. I know he works and stuff and I dont mean to sound like a needy gal but is it fair that I have to beg to spend time with him. I mean i wanna have the idea of him wanting me and stuff. Am I being fair? HELP...Thanx People...
2007-03-21 03:17:49 · 6 answers · asked by ask n ye shall recieve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys like to unwind after work... everyone does.
he wants time to himself or with his boys, he trusts you and that's why he doesn't need to see you every free minute. just because he's in a relationship doesn't mean he has to drop his old life completely.
let him have some space or you're gonna push him away.
2007-03-21 03:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Back*To*Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question the best I can.
Life's not fair.
And think about it... if you were him... and you have VERY little free time... would you want to spend all your free time with ONE person? Or try to spread it out amongst your friends and family... AND your girlfriend.
You knew what you were getting into from the start... and yeah, there's also a chance that he's married or has a steady girlfriend... and isn't actually working like he says. In which case, again, I say...
Life's not fair.
2007-03-21 10:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well It wouldnt be a very good time with someone who did not want to be there. I think maybe you should find out his feelings before things get into really hurting feelings. Is he as serious as you?
2007-03-21 10:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by jodeefla1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beg. Won't help. It sounds to me like he's trying to back away from this relationship.
You want to have the idea that he wants you, yeah. But it doesn't sound like he really does.
2007-03-21 10:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being fair? NO! Who are you not being fair to? YOU! Make yourself available for the available man. That is the fairest thing you can do.
2007-03-21 10:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you should find out what he is doing in his free time. Now don't become Inspector Gadget or some psycho, but find out, just in case!
2007-03-21 10:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋