When we first got together he would call me all the time and we would sometimes talk for hours on end. But lately he hasnt called me much. I dont get to see him very often and those calls are the thing that keeps me going. I know he's busy but surely he can take a couple minutes just to say hi?
I call him sometimes but i cant often as i dont have much money on my phone. I'd just like it if he made the effort every once in a while.
Im starting to think he's not interested in me anymore.... what do u think? honest answers please, i dont mind what u say, i just want your opinion?
2007-03-21 03:16:47 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably has gone off you a bit.
My advice is to back off and call him less than you already do. That way, you'll see if he realises that something is up and he might make more of an effort to ring you.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 03:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sluugy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think if you stopped calling him then you'd never talk to him? If so, then you have to ask yourself is he worth putting all that effort into if he's not going to make some effort himself. He might just be going through a rough time or maybe he does just want a little space from you. I guess it all depends on whether you have a really good time together or whether the time you do get to spend or talk then you both end up argueing. I think your the only one who will know whether he's lost interest or not, so even though some people might say yes he has lost interest, it's easier for them to say that and wrong cos they dont know him!
Try asking him and talking to him about it.
2007-03-21 10:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we find it very hard to take when the truth is told. I am sure you have heard of the phrase "Action speaks louder than words" and at the moment his actions cannot speak any louder. Occupy your time with anything you enjoy doing to ease your mind off him a bit but at the same time take the opportunity to go out with your friends and meet other people with the intention of letting your hair down and enjoying yourself and the friends you have around you. You will realise it will get to a time when you will only speak to him whenever you feel like and not have to sit around expecting a call from him that never comes and eventually you will move on without the heartache and you will meet the right man when you least expect.
2007-03-21 10:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Pingles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience if a guys stops calling it is because he is losing the attraction for you. Guys do call if they are interested and attracted to you. You have to get the attraction back. This is what you have to do:
1) dont complain about anything right now.... not even his not calling. Be cool about it... remember you do have a life right?
2) don't call him, text him or email him at all
3) if he does call you, then miss the call (this is hard I know, but you have to get him to start wondering about you and missing you) If he ask you to return it then call, but just be friendly (don't tell him you love him) and don't talk too long (15 min).
4) Do not act needy in any way.... do not beg him or let him think you are depressed or sad and missing him.
5) start hanging with your friends and doing things so he doesn't feel pressured that he is your everything.
6)Be the girl that he first met and fell for..... were you cool and flirty. You probably didn't burden him with your problems, etc...
7) If he ask you out then do something very interesting and fun... guys do not connect to through the words you say but the things you DO together.
If he is just busy and got comfortable with the relationship then he will start thinking he better not get TOO comfortable. If he is losing interest, then doing things you normally don't do (like not telling him you love him or not calling him or not acting needy) will surprise and interest him.
This happened to me one time. (He actually stopped calling all together and we broke up) But I did the above and he tried to get back with me after about a month.... so be patient. The most important thing is to have a life, be positive and happy and the girl you were when he met you.
2007-03-21 10:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Never mind the phone calls, do you ever see him? I know it's lovely to keep in touch via the phone, but if you don't see him physically and he doesn't phone, then I would guess he's no longer interested love. You say he's busy, busy doing what? I think if I was you, I'd move on. Find someone who you will see in the flesh, and ring you for a quick "hi, how are you".
2007-03-21 10:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people first meet all they want to do is be with that person, Speak to that person evey second of the day, this wears of and often many people make the mistake your making and believe its because he is no longer interested.
People need a little time alone, this will let your relationship grow further, dont worry about it and dont put pressure on him.
You normally find that the ones who do not talk much actually think more, and i reckon he is thinking about you right now.
so dont worry to much just yet.
2007-03-21 10:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
IMHO it sounds like he's lost interest and he may even have another relationship on the go.
You're right, surely he could take a couple of minutes just to say 'Hi', or even a loving text wouldn't take long.
If you've no contact, you haven't really got a boyfriend I'm afraid.
Not sure if this is what you wanted to hear, but I wish you all the very best.
I also think that you SO deserve better. Move on and find your special 'someone' - they're out there waiting for you! I promise !!!
2007-03-21 10:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DAll I read is my boyfriend never call me is he interested? I think you answered your own question. How about no Da.If he was interested he would call. The problem is is that your interested in him but he dossen't feel the same. The real question you should have asked is why are women interested in men who don't value who they are as a person. Here is a tip. Lose the 0 find a hero. p
2007-03-21 10:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say, calls do taper off a little as you can run out of things to say to each other, you didn't say how long you've been together. I think you need ask him! He could simply be busy and doesn't realise how important those calls are to you. You need to talk about it and if things then don't improve you'll have your answer.
2007-03-21 10:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was having this problem with my bf too so this is honest advice. you really can't tell if he is interested or not. i had stopped calling him and after a good while he started to call often. so you should try my strategy although you will have to be a little patient. remember do not call him unless he starts to call you often.they tend to miss you when you are not there.good luck
2007-03-21 11:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋